My fiance has an 8 year old son. The child has been through plenty in his young years. By age 1 1/2 he was taken from the mother completely. She has no rights and hasn’t seen him in almost 7 years. The state contacted my fiance and said “you better come get him or he will go into state custody”. My fiance went and got him, though admittedly, wasn’t thrilled about the whole aspect of it. The next 4 years the child was with my fiance and his ex girlfriend. The ex girlfriend didn’t pay attention to the child, didn’t teach him much. He pretty much just existed in the household. Her birth children (3 of them) all chose to live with their father once the judge allowed them to make the decision. She is an alcoholic (2 DWI’s in 4 years… one incident in which she ran over a man and killed him), uses cocaine and some prescription drug illegally. Any way, my fiance left her but continued to send his son to stay with her every weekend. He continued to do this into our relationship. The son was coming home with burnt fingers, huge scratch marks on his body, bruises, etc. I finally said if the child goes there again, I will call CPS and have things looked into. The child stopped going there. Well now, it seems like Dad really doesn’t give a sh*t about this child at all. I know in my heart he was sending him because he didn’t want to keep him 7 days a week. It gave him a break. Now I find that I am the only one raising this child. Dad hardly ever takes care of him. It seems like I have to force him to.
How do I make my fiance actually BE a father? I am ready to call it quits if I can’t some up with a solution. I hate to see this child shuffled around any more but I am frustrated.