The crack cocaine addict I was speaking of was MY son – and it was my grandson he had sitting outside the crack house. He had been working on my house for the past couple of weeks and I loaned him my car to go buy some paint – and then he called to say he wasn’t able to make it back in time for me to pick my grandson up from school so he would go ahead and do it. I would have bet the farm that he would NEVER put one of his children in harms way – but obviously I would have been wrong. I was just looking for some insight – but if you choose to condemn and judge I pray you never have to walk a mile in my shoes – or those of my son.
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Written by jordanpowerranger about 1 year ago.
I’m sorry about your son, that must be an awful thing to go through. I hope he recieves the help he needs to get better. Good luck to your family!
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Written by Pam C about 1 year ago.
i have never done crack but i have been addicted to other substances, and pretty much, the answer is the same for all of us that are/were addicted to something: the person needs to want to stop, is sick of his life the way it is, sick of getting into scary, sticky situations to get high, and realizes that he’s putting his family in jeopardy, in his desire to get high. you can offer treatment, but if he is not ready to quit, he will reject your idea, but will probably file it away and think about it at another time, when he isn’t having so much fun. if you think your grandson is in danger, and it sounds like he is, then you need to take measures to keep him safe. don’t let your son take your car again. that’s asking for trouble. if he needs to go somewhere, go with him. don’t give him the responsibility of picking up his son. he can’t put his needs aside for his child right now. its the disease of addiction,and its taken over his life. its not that he doesn’t care about the boy. your son is as sick as he would be with cancer or diabetes. the thing is, he needs to want to get well. good luck, i am a grammie too and it must hurt like crazy.
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Written by Heather C about 1 year ago.
It often takes unfortunate situations like this for family members to fully understand the extent of an addiction. It’s full effect on all those around.
Crack is an extremely powerful addiction – your son’s concept of reality and responsibility are far far from where they should be. And he should NEVER be left reponsible for children.
He can’t think past the fix he wants to get, to see leaving a child in a car in a dangerous neighborhood is moronic.
I wont condemn your son, He needs help, people with addictions need help, they need strong stable support, they need interventions, and they need to be removed from the environment that helped them fall into this rut.
Important things for you, until he decides to get help. Don’t loan him a vehicle, or money if he uses either to get drugs your aiding him, and if he gets strung out and hurts someone in your car your liable for it. Please dont leave him in charge of anyone under the age of 12, and that’s pretty questionable. Don’t let him bring you into his drama, don’t listen to the oh poor me’s…etc.If you want him to get help sooner consider calling a treatment center. Petition the court to award you Power of Attorney as his state of mind isn’t always grounded, and put him in the treatment center. (He can voluntarily give you POA, if he chooses- that would cut down on court costs!)
If he signs himself in, he can sign himself out, if you sign him in, you sign him out. It works out better in the long run. And listen to the counselors information on how he’s doing, not what he tells you or how he appears!
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Written by Robb H about 1 year ago.
I missed your initial question, but, if your looking for some understanding of addiction and the decision making process of an addict I can share my experiances with you.
I’ve been clean and sober for almost 4 years now. In the 7 years prior I was addicted to alcohol, meth, crack and powder cocain. I was a police officer for 7 years prior to that.Regarding the addiction and the substances the crack was the worst as far as craving, but the easiest to walk away from for me.
While active, I can tell you without hesitation, I would have done ANYTHING to get more, or to get money. I can’t tell you how close I came to comitting robberies to get money, and I really don’t know why I never did. I honestly would have comitted murder without regrets at the time. Nothing mattered except getting or staying high.
The end of the drugs for me was pretty easy. I just woke up sick and tired and knew I couldn’t go on, so, I came clean to everyone around me, isolated myself at my parents house, gave them my car keys, money, credit cards and told them not to let me out of their site for one second for the next few months. I was able to detox, get out of my environment and start fresh.
I drank for a few more years, and, after my second DUII I realized I had a drinking problem also. I went to rehab for 31 days inpatient and 6 months continuing care.
In the end, it was up to me. The support I received made it easier, but, I had to want to quit to make it work.
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