Me and my sons dad are still together, yet he lives in Sioux City IA and I live in TX. I am living with my sister right now and he is trying to recover from not only alcohol, but from losing his job, his light and about to be the roof over his head. Yesterday he was blessed with a job that pays great there but he still has to struggle till his first check. I had a job until last week so i got my last check yesterday and I try to send him as much as I can without breaking myself. I want to stay here and work and save while he is there making sure that when me and my son gets there we wont have to do without. Sometimes I feel so insecure about him because well lets just say I forgave him for a lot of stuff he did to me in the past. We have both let each other know of any deep dark secrets we had and got everything out in the open. About a week ago he had a drink because he felt so much pressure on him at the time he thought he needed it. It really hurt me because if he drinks he tends to lie. Also, yesterday he went to see one of his friends that is not a good influence, epecially in his situiation and he didnt anser my phone calls all night and also didnt call me till late the next day. I was a mess, I called the jails there, I called the ER’s there, and I could not find him. So when He finally called me I was upset. He tells me that he went out and started not to feel well and drove himself to the ER in the city he was in. I didnt call to verify but I should have. I kno that he does have a heart problem so I asked him if he drank and he said no, then I asked him if he had done anything else to cause his heart rate to mess up and he said he had to go he was updet that I would even ask him that. I really didnt mean to ask that, I was just upset that I hadnt heard from him and he was ignoring my calls. Should I feel guilty for asking him that? he said it hurt his feelings. I have never been with anyone that is recovering from alcohol, so how should I handle things if I feel like I have been hurt? I dont want to cause him to go back to the drink. Can anyone relate?