I have an alcoholic son who has recently lost everything. He’s now living back home with my wife and I, and all he has left is his leased BMW (from back when he actually had an income).

He can no longer afford the BMW’s insurance or the monthly car payment. My wife & I had been paying it for the past 2 months in the hopes that he’d eventually get his act together and start working again, but now we see that’s not going to happen and he’s been going out & driving drunk in it.

Today we decided that we’re not going to pay for him any longer and the longer his car sits in our driveway the more drama it’s causing. So I called up the BMW people and asked them to come take the car, but they said I wasn’t “authorized” to speak with them. Can I just take the car to a local BMW dealership and drop it off? Our son is stressing us out to no end with the car payments and driving drunk, etc — we just want to get rid of it. 1 door is dented on it caus he’s irresponsible and crazy.