My son is 16 years old. He has been dating his current girlfriend/fiance ( I insisted that they marry eachother because of the baby..) for about two years. My son has a violent temper and oftent talks back to me and his teachers, throws stuff when he gets angry, and frequently throws tempur tantrums. When he was younger, we forced him to go to counseling. After he turned 14, he refused to go anymore, and I couldn’t make him. Last year, he dropped out of high school and began doing PCP, which as you know, can make people extremely violent. After I made him go through detox at a rehab center for teens, he promised me that he would stay clean. I don’t think that he’s doing PCP anymore, but I wouldn’t be surprised if he was using cocaine or herion or even crack. Anyways, ever since they started dating, she has ALWAYS gotten into some sort of “accident” with a doorknob, or a toaster, or a bookcase. She’s extremly “clumsy”.It seems like she always has hand-shaped bruises on her arm (she tries to wear jackets all the time to cover them, but she always ends up taking the jacket off eventually), and every other week, she has a black eye. She’s had a broken nose about three times this year. Last Christmas, she had three cracked ribs and what looked like bite marks on her shoulders. I didn’t want to ask her about it because I didn’t want to be intrusive or upset her, especially on Jesus’ holiday.
Anyways, last week, she called me from a payphone and said that she was sleeping at homeless center because my son told her to get out of the flat (they have a flat in the city.) and threatened her with a knife. She also confessed to me that he had been violent with her before, but she didn’t give out specifics. I ordered her to get out of that homeless shelter and find another place to stay because it was just plain irresponsible of her to put herself in a situation like that. Crazy people sleep in homeless shelters, especially the youth ones. I’m not sure what to do anymore! As bad as I feel for her, she’s behaving irresponsibly and she’s putting me in an awkward position. Last night, she slept on my front lawn because she had nowhere else to go. I’m just so sick of having to clean up my son’s filthy messes. This morning, I had to cook breakfast for her and buy her prenatal vitamins. I don’t know if I can feel sorry for this woman anymore. Her parents pretty much dumped her on me, and my son won’t take care of her. My son refuses to get a job, but I’m praying every night for him to get a job as a lawyer or a doctor. I just have no idea what to do anymore. How can I getting my son to clean up his act and take care of his messes without me?
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