How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

I purchased my home in December 2008. It came with a Guest house. I was very happy to have this guesthouse because I wanted to rent it out to my son for 400 dollars a month. It’s very nice and fairly new. I also need to add that I live in San Diego California where the cost of living is pretty high.
Before I moved my son in I set down some ground rules. I told him that I am moving him into the house so that he can get himself established. He is to work, go to school and not do drugs. He agreed. I am 6 years clean from drugs and alcohol and I refuse to let anyone take away my sobriety. I drug tested him and he came back clean.
Since he has been living with me he has paid a total of 500.00. He paid 400 dollars in February, 100 dollars in March, and nothing since. I was starting to get a little concerned. He hasn’t started school and he is hardly working.
This past weekend I was in New York and his girlfriend called and told me that my son and his friends are in the guesthouse smoking marijuana. She told me that they always do it in the house when I go away for the weekend. She also told me that when I tested him he had purchased some synthetic urine from the smoke shop and that is why he came back clean. I came home and confronted my son (not telling him where I got my information). I asked him to leave my home by July 4th weekend. He agreed that it was time seeing that he is 23 years old and he needs to move on. Do you feel that I gave him enough time to leave? Also, do you think that there is anything that I should have done differently? Thank you in advance for your answers.

My sons ex-girlfriend, who is 16, and lives down the street from us has a lot of family problems. We have taken her in tons of times, and she dated my 18 year old son for a while and they broke up and i think they’ve been having lots of problems lately. Whatever, that’s their business..

Well last night i guess things were okay with everyone at home…but the dad gave her a glass of coco cola with coconut flavored rum in it and let her drink as much as she wanted and she got really tipsy and freaked out on my son and called him like screaming at him and cussing him out and stuff. I only witnessed this because we were watching a movie together when he answered the phone. He asked her if she was drunk and she said that her dad gave her some stuff and that she felt really weird. I think in the least to say, he told her to stop talking to him because she was saying very hateful things and deleted her off facebook. Well she just wrote on my facebook, “Hey Mrs. Robyn can you have Cole call me when you see this?” So she’s starting drama on my facebook now…

My question is…what parent just gives their kid alcohol and lets them get totally tipsy and out of control and doesn’t at least take their phone away so they don’t make total fools out of themselves? I let my son have a few sips of wine, he’s had a little bit of a wine cooler but no where enough to get him buzzed or tipsy. But i never have just let my son drink however much he wanted and get out of control.

What will be/are your rules on drinking? Will you allow your kids to drink at home?
What would you do if you were in my situation last night?
Note: I even had a glass of wine last night that made me VERY sleepy and batty. My husband was quick to shut down the computer and told me to go to bed. But i am 39 years old and i can control myself better than a 16 year old can. What parent does that…? It’s really just beyond me…

http://www.thosewhohost.org/TexasUnderageDrinkingLaws.htm

Read the drinking laws.
cath- i was too. but apparently it was just a little bit of coke and it was a FULL like beer glass…

We found our son has been drinking ,by having to go pick him up at his friends house after he was spending the night and he had got sick all over his friends room.The boys mom which just got out of nursing school came to the car and said that they had been drinking .I guess she doesn’t check in on them .
He has just got a insulin pump and the dr. is still making adjustments to it. Im scared for his life and don’t want him dead. What affect does the alcohol have on type 1 diabetes
and what can I do to make him see this is and was a bad decision . I don’t think grounding him will do any good,They need to get scared , maybe a tour of the jail might work.He is not driving right now but has been wanting to , but now I don’t trust him. His friend is driving , the one that had got the alcohol and they are both sixteen. They had to have someone older buy it for them .What can I do?…The diabetes is hard enough to handle as is.Please help.

You know I am just a little upset right now. My husband’s 23 daughter gave my 15 year old alcohol while we were on vacation 4 hours away. It was 9:30 at night. I go in and find a half empty bottle of gin sitting on their dresser at the hotel. I tell DH, who appears upset. I am fussing to him about it saying something to the effect of it’s illegal. The 23 year old has a 1 year old baby and she went into the store and bought alcohol for 2 teenagers (under 18) and leaves the baby in the car.

She then walks up and starts calling me a whore and begins tearing up my things and then slapped me as hard as she could in my face. My son was drunk. My other children and her baby witnessed it. I was furious. I packed my things and left.

Now I just think that I am in an abusive marriage where my husband did little to prevent this. And I did not expect something like this to happen. I am not going to report it because really what good would it do? The kids were all crying. I packed up 5 of them and drove home. It’s 3 now. My son was crying all the way home and had to make frequent stops.

My husband was trying to leave the bottle well within their reach. I told him to pour it out but he kept saying that essentially he gave them cash and they bought it and it was his -yet left in plain sight for them to continue drinking. So I dumped it after telling him twice to hide it and him failing to do so.
Yes my son will have consequences as well as he played a role. I did not consent. They just wanted alcohol. That was it. The daughter went and got it for them.

My son and I have written this together for advice…How pathetic I am 42 years old and seeking help “online” but I guess I feel a little desperate. My son, my husband and I all had a fight tonight, or should I say I completely blew up (in an immature way using the “F” word and nearly every other one as well) at my son and husband and then proceeded to leave the house leaving them both behind. My son has apologized but frankly often does and we wind up fighting again just 5 minutes later. I should add, I often apologize too. I am seriously am frustrated and self admittedly, not handling myself very well anymore. By my sons perception, I “freaked out because he has not handed in a homework assignment” and I over reacted by telling/screaming at him he makes Me angry every single Fing day of the week which lately is just a fact. I got angry with my husband because frankly, every single day as my son and I argue about EVERYTHING, he just sits there watching TV or ignoring the entire event, NEVER supporting me. To paint the picture, my son is an absolutely awesome kid and has great values but the truth is he is lazy and a procrastinantor and it is driving me crazy. He does not do drugs or alcohol and is very wholesome. Aside from that he talks back to me EVERYDAY and everytime I insist that he steps up to the plate. He is 18 years old and a senior and for the past 6-8 years he has missed homework assignments, made excuses, played video games, etc… Every single day I rode him to do his work and he would decieve me and pretend it was done. His grades were crappy enough that he will be going to a community college, he does not have grades to get into a four year school. Grades vary from a F-B average 2.0 GPA. I know academics are not everything but these are BAD habits not conducive to having a successful life. He sees my constant critism as “ragging” everyday and being “mean”. At 18 years old, never having a job and being lazy and talking back non stop, I feel like I am starting to crack. My husband, not his father, but in the picture since he was four offers ZERO support. That is a seperate issue I am completely disturbed about and his biological father does NOTHING and lives 2000 miles away…visits once a year for 5 days and leaves a hero. Might I add never a dime in child support.
This morning I got up at 600 am (up before my husband) ….got ready, went to work until 500pm as a nurse, picked my son up from the “gym”-which I paid for, brought him home, fed the dogs, changed, went for a walk and then grocery shopping for groceries(at 10 pm) since my son claims there is nothing to eat if he doesn;t have skim milk (can’t be 2%), low sugar bread, cold cuts, shredded wheat, honey, soups, snacks etc… I will also mention he does not have a drivers liscence yet as he has not shown the level of maturity necessary for me to trust he will make safe decisions behind the wheel. His room is a PIG STY, and he thinks I am just being a Bitch if I comment on any of these things. Frankly, it is getting old….I feel like I have a really good “12″ year old. I also feel like a failure because I feel resposnible for his being so ill prepared for the real world and lastly I am completely PISSED OFF that I have a husband who hasn’t stepped up to plate to help parent in 14 years and a deadbeat for an ex husband too. So maybe I am an angry bitter woman? Will someone give me a reality check? I don;t want to be mean to my son and husbnad but I feel like I am going crazy some days and it is not my hormones. It is my REAL feelings!! please give me feedback….

Thoughts from SON: Ok basically like she said my mom is the only real authority in life. As of right now I have C’s B’s and A’s last year I did fail chem and math so I know where she is coming from. Often Times I do talk back but often times my mom freaks out Curses at me which I never do to her and becomes so unresonible I cant even talk to her. Sometimes I think she gets mad at my step dad and takes it out on me or vice versa. I know she is stressed but I honestly think she has a problem. And maybe I do 2. I would go for support and would like outside views. Yes I didnt do my math homework. That just started it. She takes things and blows them to an extreme. Sometimes she is awesome, lovely and encouraging but when she snaps which is daily as do I 1. She will say make her angry everyday and stand the way. Which admit I do talk back alot but I instantly apoligize and am ALWAYS the first one 2 admit im wrong and try to make things better. But really how bad am i. I have a dirty room and get average grades. That isnt horrible. I dont do drugs and I am an eagle scout (with my moms support). Arent I just the average kid? Also she makes me clean my room every 2 days and it only takes about 10-20 mins so how bad can it be. The things she yells at me for are things like are things i do over and over like YOU DIDNT GET A TOWEL FOR YOUR SHOWER? THERES C

I have a seven year old son (stepson) who I love very much and have always looked at him as my own. To me, he’s my son and will always be. My husband and I have a four year old daugter together and honestly if you asked me to choose one I never could. I’ve been in his life since the baby days and my husband and I have full custody. He’s my little man. We have been open about the fact that I am not his biological mom since early on and he seems to understand. The biological mom never wanted him. She made it clear that she had no interest in being involved. She’s really gotten herself in a huge mess, drugs and alcohol and so many young children that she has no rights to! I’ve tried to get her to care for her children and it never works. I do not understand how she cannot love her own son, he is an amazing, loving child. I really wish she could offer him some love, I wish she could offer all her children out there some mothering. However, it’s her choice and she’s missing out. I have no hate for her, she did bless me with being able to love and be loved back by this little boy. And he means the world to me, just as equally as my daughter.

Now, the biological mom is sick. On her last days (due to heavy smoking). She has never seen my son (her son), when he was born she refused to hold him. Part of me wants my son to go see her because it’s important to see and accept your lines of family. I want him to at least know who his biological mother is (even if its just the outer layer). He’s only seven and I don’t want him to ever think in the future I took away his mother’s spot and never gave him the opportunity to know her. I don’t know if it’s a good idea to let him see her or not. Will it scare him? She’s not the best person and I’m scared she’ll be rude to him. My husband isn’t too comfortable with the idea. I just think this will be her only chance, she should allow her own blood-child to see her. I just want my little guy to be safe and loved as much as possible.

My wife doesn’t really like alchohol being in the house so I poured some in a baby bottle to disguise it. A couple hours later, my 3 month old son got hungry so I grabbed the first bottle I saw and it happened to be the alcohol in the bottle. I forgot that I had put the everclear vodka in there and thought it was water. He didn’t want to drink at first but i eventually got him to drink. After he finished drinking I noticed the smell of alcohol out of nowhere and discovered that it was from the bottle and from him. I then remembered putting the vodka in the bottle and panicked. What do I do? What’s going to happen to him? Is he going to get fetal alcohol syndrome? I don’t want my wife to find out but should I secretly take him to the doctor? She’s out at the store right now and won’t be home for an hour. I’m scared. Could I have killed him?

P.S. He had what’s equivalent to 10 shots

basicly my son will soon be turning 17, nearly all of his mates are 17 too, some older than 17, and a few younger. and he wants to have a big birthday celebration with about 40 of his friends. Now I don’t have a problem with that number of people around our house and garden, but i was wondering what would happen if the police we’re called out over a noise complaint or something, and they turn up to find a lot of drunken 17 year olds? Would i be fined or anything because they were at MY house?
Now i will point out to any people un-aware of the laws regarding alcohol in england, that in england the age you can drink and buy alcohol is 18. The law also says that if you are having a meal in a pub/bar you can buy beer/cider/wine at 16, aslong as someone over 18 buys it FOR you, i.e it’s not your money. And the law also says that in the privacy of your own home, a child as young as 5 can be GIVEN any alcoholic beverage they wish by a parent/guardian. (yes, i know that last law is ridiculous, but it’s still the law).
so as my son and most of his friends would be underage by 1 year, would the police mind? or would they turn a blind eye because at least these teenagers arent going around getting drunk on the streets, but are in a safe controlled enviroment?
thanks for any answers (sorry if this was a bit long)
And a quick note to anyone here who says anything about my ‘bad morals’ or “he shouldn’t drink anyway hes too young”, i wasn’t asking about that, i was wanting to know what what likely happen if the police were called down and saw the party. I think people need to face the fact that teenagers have ALWAYS drank underage and ALWAYS will, so it’s up to us as parents to make sure they know the conesequences of it and the dangers of it. Other than that i don’t mind my son drinking as he is only underage by 1 year…

My friend just got out of rehab for Suboxone and crack cocaine abuse about a month ago after checking in voluntarily having realized he needed help (Suboxone was the primary problem, the crack was just a drug he did in tandem with it.) . He’s been really good about staying away from both as well as the people who facilitate his abusive behavior so far. We’ve gone to the bars a few times since or had some beers at my place with no noticeable problems on his end about cravings. However, his father called me and told me I need to stop drinking with him entirely, for good, or he will do his best to separate the two of us; saying that as an addict the alcohol will lead him either back to those drugs or to alcoholism. We’re both 21 and college students so he’s not a minor that can be forcibly controlled by his parents, but in the same right his father is doing what he thinks he needs to to keep his son safe. I am skeptical about whether he really should never drink again, or whether his father is operating under the assumption that my friend is simply unable to control any of his behavior and, in doing so, being overprotective.

His father got the information about it from the former drug user that leads the family IOP meetings he attends having completed his voluntary rehabilitation. Unlike my friend who realized he had a problem before he ruined his life, this guy lost his family, friends, job, etc. and then went to rehab. He got out clean and sober and then relapsed one night after having 3 or so beers. So to me it seems like this person sees every member of his group as a worst case scenario of someone who hit rock bottom. I realize that he is talking from experience, but I also realize that not all drug users are the same, and that not all are so unable to control their impulses; seeing as how my friend has had a few drinks so far with no desire to relapse. However, his father takes every possible piece of advice in any context as applicable to his son’s own situation and demands that he not drink at all and that I refuse to drink with him entirely. Drinking is a bit of a ritual for us in that once or twice a month we get together and have a few beers down town or at one of our houses and just play video games or chat, so to stop entirely is completely possible, but not desirable on either end.

I’m just looking for professional advice or regular opinions on all this:

Is it true that no drug addict should drink after rehabilitation under any circumstances even if alcohol was never a problem for them?

If so, should they refrain from drinking for good or just take time away from it until their life is back in order?

Should I refuse to drink with him at all?

Am I in the wrong for thinking that he can drink without worrying about his former drug addiction?

All responses are greatly appreciated, thanks.

Oh where to begin… First, I just want to say I’ve already looked for advice from my mother and a bunch of other people… But I want to hear it from an outsider. So……

My son’s father and I had been together for almost 7 years. We got together when I was 14 going on 15 (I am now 21). When I turned 17, we moved in together, and had been living with each other up until this most recent March. June 2008, we had a son. We’ve had a colorful history, full of ups and downs, but we got through the good times and the hard times TOGETHER, always. We had a lot of problems… Mostly money and financial issues, and all the other problems were us fighting over his drinking habits and basically choosing alcohol and his friends over his family. Due to him not working for almost a year, we were evicted from our home back in March. We both agreed (while angry and fighting) that we couldnt wait to get away from each other, and not have to see each other’s faces anymore. So we broke up. I moved in with my mom, he moved in with his brother. We continued seeing each other, hanging out, all that fun stuff. We were UNOFFICIALLY “together”.

Then in June, I started talking to an old friend, whom I had known for quite a few years. We started dating. My mom kicked my son and I out, so after only a month of dating this new guy, I moved in with him. (Wow, right?)

Obviously, this almost killed my son’s father. He hates that I’m living in another household with another guy who gets to see his son more than he does. He says he’s changed… That he no longer drinks anymore, nor that he has the desire to. He finally got a job, got a car, got his license back, and is back in school for Criminal Justice. He seems to be making a step towards a better life, which is all I had been asking for from the beginning. He says he regrets the things he did to make him lose his family, and that when he goes to sleep at night, all he has to cry on and hold is a pillow, and that kills me.

Problem is, I’m scared. And I know this new guy Im with is different. He’s an amazing guy, he’s done nothing but try to make me happy, and I do nothing but try to push him away. But there’s half of me that’s telling me “Despite how great of a guy he is, relationships are ALWAYS great in the beginning”. They’re both fighting for me. And I dont know what to do. The new guy says we can have our own new family, and that just because my son’s father and I had a baby together, doesn’t make us a family. I disagree. I’m old fashioned when it comes to that, because I’ve always wanted and dreamt of a family with my son’s father… And then it happened, but our hearts were in two different places. I’m extremely defensive when it comes to people talking about my son’s father. So when the new guys says things like… “He doesn’t love you like I do, He’s selfish and only wants you because he doesn’t want anyone else to have you”… I flip out. And I basically tell him it’s none of his business, when in reality, it is lol. He IS my boyfriend after all.

So I guess my question is, Should I move out of my new boyfriends house, and try again with my son’s father? I’ll always love him, and I know deep down inside that I’m never going to get over him. I will always want my family with him… No matter how happy I am in this new relationship. I want to believe he’s changed, and a part of me does believe it. I know he wants to make me happy and have his family back together again, and I want that too. But I feel stuck. I feel like I can’t make a decision because I dont want to hurt anyone. And it’s driving me NUTS. I know I have to hurt someone, but I don’t want to hurt the wrong person so I’ve just been avoiding the issue… But I have to decide. I can’t keep wondering, and bouncing back and forth with my feelings. I have to hurt someone. I don’t know how though. :/

It’s like… I have to choose between a 3 MONTH relationship, and a 7 YEAR relationship. It should be a pretty easy choice lol.. But I cannot, for the life of me, decide. Only because I don’t want someone to get hurt. But EVERYONE in the situation is hurting now, Me, my son’s father, and the new boyfriend. So something needs to get done, and I am desperate for advice from an outsider.

Should I go back to my son’s father and make a fresh start? A new beginning? And do it right this time? Or should I take a chance with someone else who I have only been with for 3 months, and moved in with after only 1 month? :/ Help, for the love of God lol.
I can’t afford a place on my own just yet, which is why I had to move in with the new boyfriend. I do have elsewhere to go, but its with my son’s fathers brother & sister in law. (The same one HE lived with when we first got evicted). And I have noticed a change in my son’s father. My birthday was in July for example, and my son’s father just bought me a card and a gift, and it said “I’m sorry I missed your birthday. If you’ll let me, I’ll never miss another one again”.. Little things like that.. He’s changed from being an a-hole, to being sweet and caring and considerate.

Modernization says Alcohol is very bad for health, so doesnt Jesus said as per according to old testament No drinks to be consumed and nor consume Swine, but christians have changed the whole thing, why ???

My son is 19. He had a party while I was out of town. There were several kids teens there between 18-20 and most (not all) were drinking. A girl (drunk) got her car stuck in my yard, while trying to leave due to the fact that most of the kids had gone to sleep. Neighbors called the police due to the noise the car was making trying to get unstuck. Some of the kids who had been awake went outside to help her. Police car arrives. Teens smell like alcohol and some empty cans were outside from where they had been smoking cigarettes earlier. Policeman went in my home, spotted more empty beer cans and asked for the owner. My son talked with him, admitted they had been having a party earlier and drinking but most were asleep. Officer called for back up. The officers went through my entire home (every floor) and woke up all the kids and told them to go to the kitchen and take a breathalyzer test. The officers opened every bedroom, bathroom and closet door looking for kids hiding. They had used all the straws for the breathalyzers. Threw them in the trash and after realizing there were more teens getting woke up, they took the straws out of the trash, rinsed them in the kitchen sink and reused them. (IS THAT NOT UNSANITARY?) They arrested anyone that did not blow a ZERO. Two girls blew and failed and begged to retake it and passed. One of my son’s best friends blew and passed and had actually been drinking. (How is that possible?) (How does that guarantee that other tests were not wrong?)

My son was wrong for throwing the party. Wrong for drinking. Everyone there that was drinking was wrong. I don’t blame the neighbors for calling if the car woke them up. It’s not about all this. I just want to know how serious is an MIP? Does that require a lawyer in Georgia or can my son just show up in court and hope for the best? He is in college and works part time and I am so worried about what a judge normally does and just curious about the straws and incorrect test results.

I have an 8 wk old baby boy. I would really like to have a martini w/my GFs on Girls Night so long as it is safe. I read that alcohol only stays in breastmilk until it is out of your blood. If I nurse my son right before I go out (one street over actually) and his next feeding would be 3hrs after that. If my husband gives him a bottle for that feeding it would be 6 hours after one martini until he would nurse again. Is that long enough for my milk to free from all alcohol? I did read that only 2% gets to your milk but I do not want any trace at all getting to him. Thanks!

i really appreciate your help with my sons girlfriend on your previous post, i was really frantic and wooried at that time, thats why i sent so many posts.

solved problem —-new problem below
My sons girlfriend was raped and she stayed at our house, because her mother says it would be better ( SHE WAS RAPED AT HER HOUSE). I thought she would just sleep on the couch, or something. well i went to go check on him and see how he was doing. i found his girlfriend in his be sleeping, and my son was laying next to her drinking a bottle of jack daniels. I also saw his rifle next to the bed. My husband bought a m14 semi for his 16th birthday. when i told my husband about he said dint do anything that might threaten him, because the girl he loves the most in his life was just raped, and he feels it is his job to protect his girlfriend. i mean he would be doing the same thing if i was raped. but they are both only 16, and only been in a relationship for just over 6 years. my husband said the jack daniels is just a coping mechanism, and the rifle probably makes his girlfriend feel safer and well give them a week to get better. My son has defended his girlfriend in a physical fight before.

new problem
well i was really frantic when i caught my son girlfriend sleeping together. but i decided that i would let the sleep together on the condition that they leave the door open and where full clothing. they agreed. on the alcohol i took away the jack daniels away, and just gave him a non alcoholic beer. i decided to leave the gun, since he is not stupid and knows how to saftly handle a gun. his girlfriend can stay for one more week, and her mom was ok with since she has recovered a lot since being with my son, so i was ok with it.

but im strarting to have second thoughts, did i make all of the right decisions, please answer

I left my partner 2 years ago when my son was 4 years old, his dad saw him as and when, always said too busy with work, i get minimal maintenance. When my ex does pick him up he always smells of alcohol and appears drunk to which i say he cannot take him, especially as he is driving. Recently he has a new girlfriend who he has only known for 3 weeks and my son was due to go on an overnight stay but i stopped this because my son did not know this person and to be honest how can my ex know her. My partner says what he does in his house with his son is his business and not mine, need to mention my son is autistic, but i pointed out that when he has slept over before my son always ends up in his dads bed and i asked what would happen if he wanted to do that again, he replied well i’ll let him come into bed. My son also comes back from his dads saying that he calls me names and his half sister who is 21 slags me off as well, my son says he doesn’t want to see him, can i stop him going.

my husband has custody of his 8 year old son and the boys granparents were awrded visitation because they raised him when he was younger but anyways the get him every other weekend and alternate holdays and they stay drunk and have parties around him every time he is there. they are truly alcoholics they even drive with him while drinking do u think we could take them back to court and take away their visitation if they cant stop any response helps!

My girlfriend’s parents are having a big Thanksgiving dinner this year. They, themselves, have 4 adult children and no grandchildren so they intend to buy a lot of alcohol like they have in recent years and turn Thanksgiving into a big grown-up party. As a result, they’ve asked me to not bring my son.

My son has no mother in his life. I don’t have a relationship with my parents because they’re alcoholics and were abusive to my sister and I growing up. My sister is going to Thanksgiving with her husband’s parents.

I told my girlfriend that she could go on and have a great time with her family, but I thought I’d just take my son for Chinese and we’d have the holiday alone. She’s mad, now, because I don’t want to try and make other arrangements. I told her there was no alternative and she said I should tell her parents that no I wouldn’t find another person to take my son.

I think that if I raise too big of a fuss over it it will only lead to my son being treated negatively all day anyway, so it’s best to just let them do their thing and us do ours. If she really feels we need to be there, it’s HER place to talk to her parents.

Who’s right?

…and the earth? I know it then goes on mention two kids who get it on together while they eat fruit and some brother smiting his brother (I think this occurs on the streets of East Gethsemane). I LOVED this book as a kid and now that I’m regressing, I’d really like to find it again. Lots of blood & gore, an alcoholic named Noah who exacts revenge on his own son for seeing him naked, sacrifices of wives and children…but all in a child-like setting called “Babel” wherein God removes all remnants of free will by making it impossible for people to understand one another . Does ANYONE know the title and author? It would be so appreciated!
(((Tash))). Forgive me. I’m a wee bit cranky. Seeing you has cheered me, though.

I have a five year old son. His biological father died when he was barely a year old from an alcohol induced accident. His father was an alcoholic, didn’t do anything with him or for him and only pretended to be the model father in front of family and friends. He was also very verbally abusive. I have tried over the years to keep in contact with his side of the family and I get a Christmas card if I am lucky. His own Grandmother, who begged me to stay with her after he passed, makes no attempts to keep in touch with him. The last time I called all of them they all told me that they couldn’t afford the long distance phone bills, so I would have to call them if I wanted to talk to them. My current husband is the only father my son has known or even remembers. I have shown him pictures on regular occasions of his biological father, but he still says it’s Daddy and points to my husband. I understand it still may be too early for him to comprehend the situation, but this is where my dilemma comes in. My husband doesn’t want me to ever tell my son about his birth father. I don’t know if it’s because he is worried about him looking at him differently or one day walking away to try and be close to his biological family. I told my husband that one day I was going to explain to him what happened and talk to him about his biological father, even though he wasn’t the best person in the world. He is upset and thinks I should never bring it up to my son. I have always planned on telling my son because he is his birth father. Can a few people leave their thoughts for me, serious thoughts please, and let me know if they think I am wrong for my reasoning?

…and the earth? I know it then goes on mention two kids who get it on together while they eat fruit and some brother smiting his brother (I think this occurs on the streets of East Gethsemane). I LOVED this book as a kid and now that I’m regressing, I’d really like to find it again. Lots of blood & gore, an alcoholic named Noah who exacts revenge on his own son for seeing him naked, sacrifices of wives and children…but all in a child-like setting called “Babel” wherein God removes all remnants of free will by making it impossible for people to understand one another . Does ANYONE know the title and author? It would be so appreciated!
(((Tash))). Forgive me. I’m a wee bit cranky. Seeing you has cheered me, though.