My son had gotten shaken baby syndrome while in the care of his father.?

13/02/2011 admin 5 comments

My son was diagnosed with shaken baby syndrome. Once this was established children youth and services stepped in and took both my son and my daughter. this was in feb of last yr. I have been doing everything they asked me to like parenting evaluations psychiatrist’s etc. the judge finally ruled my kids father to 22- 44 months in prison. Now im still trying to get my kids back. they are in a foster family because no one in my family could take them. Now they want to put my children up for adoption! Ive had positive feedback from every appointment i go to. i am now 9 weeks pregnant and my case worker threatened to to take my newborn baby too when she is born. For no reason! i have no criminal history im not a drug addict or alcoholic. I do suffer from very high anxiety and depression, since all of this has occur ed! my son was 4 months old when his father did this and now hes 15 months! and my daughter just turned 3! i have an attorney and she told me to just go along with anything C.y.s wants me to do! but im not going to let them put them up for adoption! i have court coming on the 28th for a permanency hearing! im so nervous! and i don’t even know why they want to do this to me! im stable i have everything my children need and more im a loving mother!all i did was let there dad watch them one night and this happens! at first C.y.s tried charging me for perpetrator by omission but the judge ruled that out! ive done there services and they still wont help me get my kids back!!!! im at a loss. im trying to stay positive but its extremely hard. i have visitations only once a week and it drives me crazy to see them cry when they have to leave! my daughter doesn’t understand why she cant stay at home with mommy. i think about them 24/7 and i feel there’s nothing i can do! no one gives me answers tow hat i can do. i will fight though and never sign adoption papers. but C.y.s told me they can do it without my consent!!! i just don’t understand why the feel they have the power to tear my family apart my children are my world i feel as if i have no heart anymore! im constantly sad and i cant sleep at night anymore! if you have any answers that would help me on how to get my kids back home please let me know im at a complete loss!
Well first, Yes i am handling my stress and anxiety i go to a therapist every week. I am trying to stay healthy and yes that makes sense that if im not healthy i wouldn’t be any good to my children BUT the thing is once i get them home i know emotionally and mentally i would feel a ton better!!! i am a single mom and they are EVERYTHING to me. I miss hearing there laughter and i miss all the little things like waking up and making them breakfast! i miss holding them and comforting them! cys knows i am a good parent! my house is under control i’m a very clean person and my children have always had everything they’ve ever needed! and YES i wasn’t home when it happened that is why he got charged and is now sitting in prison! my kids and i are the ones suffering from all this! they deserve to be with me and i will not stop fighting for them. Thank you for the positive responses. I have wrote in a journal everything that has happened my appts. my goals that were met and conversations. i wil

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Written by Cleopatra about 1 year ago.

Your tactics – are sick – and victimize those who have truly suffered in this area. I hope you decide to get some help, truly.
Written by Rosie about 1 year ago.

Make sure you make that permanency hearing, and bring emotional support with you if you can.

The lawyer should be there by your side advocating for your legal rights. Give her a call and make sure she knows what the case worker said.

Keep a log book and write down what you have done, any conversations the caseworker said to you, all the requirements you have fulfilled. Don’t leave things undone. Keep all the appointments and make a case for yourself.
Written by greenbean about 1 year ago.

You are not in my country so I cannot offer you any advice as to what specifically you can do, but I just wanted to say that your question seems vague- as an outsider, I simply do not believe that all you did was to leave them in the care of their father that one time for all this to have happened- are you sure this feedback is as positive as you think, and that the same feedback is going out to everyone involved? It also seems strange that you say you have “very high anxiety and depression”- that this has started since all of this happened is, I’m sorry to say, kind of completely relavent because all of the people involved in this (CYS etc) will have their reports and ideas of the kind of mother you were before all of this happened, but the spotlight is still on you, and anxiety and depression are mental illnesses, and if these are now as severe for you as you say then it would be negligent of them not to take this into account- do you have an accurate vision of how these illnesses are affecting you? They are illnesses, by the way, not states of mind that have come about because of a series of events, do take this as seriously yourself as they seem to be. I know you have an attorney but I really think you would benefit from some sort of advocacy service- there will be some sort of service in your area where you will be able to obtain the services of someone (usually voluntary) who can look at everything about this in a neutral and non-emotionally involved state. Because you are anxious and depressed, you are just not able to view events with the clarity or same presence of mind you would normally have and this will have a knock-on effect for everything that happens. If there is no service like this available, then ask someone you trust who you know has some sort, even the vaguest sort, of experience and knowledge of this type of thing to help you with it. If you are doing this already then make sure they are the best person you know for this type of thing, not just the person you most want to do it because this can make a difference- we all have friends and relatives who can make us feel OK about a situation but that doesn’t mean they’re really saying the right thing; you need honesty and clarity more than anything here. Above all, make sure you look after yourself properly- you are well and truly under the spotlight here and you need to make damn sure that you are getting enough sleep, and eating well and taking time to exercise and relax because if you are run-down and emotionally frazzled and upset and not thinking your clearest you are no good to your children or yourself- this is like everyday life but magnified 20 times and you cannot afford to slip up. Good luck to you and your children, I hope this situation is resolved for the best of all of you, but I strongly urge you to make 100% sure your house is in order, in every possible way and meaning.
Written by sk8ermom about 1 year ago.

CPS is well known for kidnapping children. Bring every family member to court with you so that judge knows that people are watching. Fill the room with friends and family. Write the judge a letter!! Did you do this yet? A lot of times the judge’s don’t listen in the court room. Sometimes they are even thinking about the next case. I always write him the week before to summarize what we will be talking about in court and what I will be bringing. It has made a big difference! I wish I could tell you everything will be OK. Often, when things get this far, it is not ok.

BTW, I would be more than a bit stressed, depressed, and anxious if CPS stole my kids too!
Written by lal about 1 year ago.

They had my child in fostercare then adopted him out by saying I was mentally unfit, when me being so was as result of them taking him!

They have no grounds have your child right now, but they can easily use your anxiety as an excuse, I would try and convince a doctor you’re mentally well and get a damn good lawyer.
You are sufferent ‘adjustment disorder’ caused by them having your children. I would love to see how mentally stable those ‘proffesionals’ were after having their children taken from them.

P.S Other people saying they don’t quite believe you, you’re not telling them the whole story, etc is absolutely classic. No one wants to believe this shit happens. It’s far easier for people to think you are guilty of something, makes them feel more comfortable with the system they’re living in. So it could never happen to them.

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My son had gotten shaken baby syndrome while in the care of his father.?

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