I’ve been involved with John for 22 years now. We have had our ups and downs especially when it comes to his children. The children do not like me, are disrespectful, have called me names and are greedy. They think I’m cutting in on their inheritance. Johns Son who is now 32 years old has a history of drugs / alcohol abuse and violence. John and his ex-wife keep giving their Son money to sustain his addictions. They do not ask him to support himself and become a responsible individual in society. This kid is a real loser and is once again living with his father (John). I don’t go to John’s house like I use to because of his Son.

I was hoping when we retired John and I would be able to travel, go places, live a little and enjoy life. We can’t because his Son is constantly around calling his father. If we go away for a week-end, the Son is calling. We go out to dinner, the Son is calling. I’m so sick of this!

I raised my two children alone. They are now married, self sufficient and lead good lives. They would never do the things to John that John’s children have done and said to me.

I live on my meager Social Security and have submitted my rental application into a couple Low Income Seniors residences. I received a call from one of them yesterday asking me if I would be interested in the apartment. The problem is, is the apartment is 50 miles away from John and the thought of not being close to him and parting ways is killing me. I feel like my heart is being ripped away from me and it hurts.

If I don’t take the apartment, they will take me off the waiting list. I’m worried that my Landlord is going to raise my rent and if they do, I won’t be able to afford living where I am now, then I’ll be stuck.

I don’t know what to do.
Well, it’s Valentines Day and John has invited me to dinner this evening. I wonder if we will get calls? I am giving him a very special Valentine Card and have written a letter and will be discussing it with him. Not as an ultimatum, just fact.

I will post what happens in the next few days.

Thanks for your responses. I’m working on this.
John’s Daughter is visiting now from out of town. We had a lovely Valentines Dinner and exchanged cards that were very similar. I also gave him a letter letting him know how I feel. But since we haven’t been able to discuss this because of his Daughter and Son being at his home, this will need to wait until we have time alone.

I went to see the Low Income Senior Housing today and I know I can’t be picky, but it is extremely small. The most I would be able to fit in the living room is my sofa, small coffee table and maybe my 5×5 wall unit and that’s it. Leaving me about 2 ft. between the coffee table and the wall unit. No space at all. I’m so disappointed!