I am 35 years old and have always been estranged due to the stuff my mom does. She lies about everything, she will lie to get things her way she will lie to get attention she will lie to cover her butt. I am finally done for she told my sister I said something about her husband which was a total lie and created such hurt within our family. I have been dealing with this for to long and I am done. My father agrees she is getting worse but just says she is my wife. He has to drink 3-4 beers before he even gets home from work. I have a son that loves his Pop Pop but I cannot keep subjecting him to this drama. Every holiday everyday is a drama. My sister just says well that is how she is, my brother comes around once a year or when he wants something, his wife has already called her an alcoholic and she is of course an outcast. My husband has been attacked physically by my father for defending me. SHOULD I BE DONE??????????????? I wish she would just die. She threatens to kill herself!
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Written by Irish about 2 years ago.
WOW! I think it is time to detach from this highly dysfunctional situation and you need to protect yourself and your family. Your mom and dad obviously need some serious help but if they dont think so then things will only get worse. Take care of your family now! Blessings.
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Written by alex b about 2 years ago.
You are lucky… you have a “chosen” family… all to often it’s the family we are born into that we regret the most… All you can do is shelter your own family from the dysfunction you grew up with… write a goodbye letter to your parents… don’t make excuses… don’t make accusations… just tell them that it’s important to you to provide your “New” family with a positive example and that in order to do that you can no longer support or condone the behavior of your parents… make sure that everyone in your family receives a copy of this letter… It all boils down to open honest communication with the folks you love… keep your cards face up and on the table… and demand the same from everyone concerned… only talk to your parents (mother) when she’s sober…and in the company of your other sibs… make it clear to the rest of your family what you are trying to do… Become the leader of your family… lead by example… if the others won’t follow… at least your chosen family will know you tried.
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Written by lady31 about 2 years ago.
That is a hard situation. I know what it is like to have an alcoholic father and it is not easy.
Try distancing yourself, slowly at first, b/c as you said, your child loves his PopPop…………evenutally reduce the contact with them until you are comfortable with not seeing them or things get better.
Alcohol has a strong hold on people. It is like any drug. It takes over your life.
I’m sorry that your family is going through this. You are an adult and it is YOUR family that you have to protect.
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Written by sweet_thing_kay04 about 2 years ago.
I’m sorry to hear that but u can pick your friends but your stuck with your relatives.My dad was an alcoholic and my mom was a night time one.My dad is gone and my mom doesn’t drink anymore.I never once thought of not speaking to them.I just kept my distance.Plus your sister should of known not to believe your mom. I don’t know why u just don’t stay away from her and don’t talk to her.If she calls say hi be polite and say you are really busy.But to just say your done with her might be a little harsh. You might end up regreting it in the end. Good luck Oh and next Xmas go out of town..I even said once I was going out of town but didn’t.
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Written by cope_acetic@yahoo.com about 2 years ago.
Cut her out of your life. Tell your Dad that he can come see you, but she is not welcome, and do not go there.
It will hurt her (maybe!) but you need to look after your own heart and your husband & child’s. Don’t let her make you feel guilty!
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Written by dizney_71 about 2 years ago.
Family is not necessarily the one you are born into. If it is not healthy for you to have these people around you, your husband and son then don’t! Have you heard of Al-Anon? 12 step program for families of Alcoholics. It could help. Good luck.
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Written by pinkbooger about 2 years ago.
I know how hard it can be- I have an alcoholic parent. I pretty much am done too. But your situation is different, you have a child and a husband. You need to protect your family from all of that mess. I would separate myself.
It is hard to get your parent to find help and if that hasnt been done, try to do it. If it has and failed- you need to do what is best for your son and your husband.
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