My husband’s friend traded the car I gave him for meth, Is it normal to be mad?

15/12/2010 admin 8 comments

Hello, I never post here, but I am so angry/distant/frustrated etc that I figured maybe I need input instead of sullen time by my self. So here goes, I gave my old car (that still ran and wasn’t a bad car all and all) to my husbands long time friend and his new wife so they had a way to get around with there two year old son. I have been waiting on the title that I lost to get to me so I could make it official for them. Today my husbands friend started calling and harassing about how he needed the title and so on. After three calls I find out the reason why my husband keeps running out of the room to talk is because he found out his buddy traded the car I gave them for meth. My husband once confronted did tell me most of the story though I think some details have been left out….I guess my question is, should I feel the way I do right now? Is my reaction normal? Or is my husbands thought “well the way I look at it is that it was given away so it doesn’t matter, it was given to him” (the friend) the more normal reaction. Worse yet, the guy they gave it to got it impounded, and I am living in a different state. I just have this horror story running through my mind of police at my door or some impound bill being sent to me. Am I the only person alive that would feel used and angry about this sort of thing?

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Written by DM about 1 year ago.

Angry? He traded YOUR property (still legally yours) for drugs.

Report the car stolen. Let them know you loaned it to this friend and now you have no idea what he’s done with it. Let him deal with the consequences.

Your husband is enabling him and that’s not cool. Meth kills.
Written by Artiste about 1 year ago.

You must report this to the police asap!
If you hold the title to this car – YOU are liable.
Protect yourself!
Written by Mir about 1 year ago.

It is totally super super absolutely normal that you would be mad about that! I would be too! It doesn’t matter if it was a gift, he should be thankful and use it for the purpose you gave it to him for. I say you shouldn’t give him any more stuff, and if you give someone a car next time, make sure you have the title ready first. Right now I would worry about his kid.
Written by The Son of Rage and Love about 1 year ago.

You have every right to be upset and angry. In an extremely kind hearted gesture, you gave someone who you thought needed help a very valuable asset. And he pissed it away on drugs. You husband is obviously enabling his friend’s self destructive behavior out of misguided loyalty. I have to tell you, I went through a similar thing, giving several hundred dollars to a needy single mother – and I learned many lower-income people are a bottomless pit, they will take and take and take but never do one little thing to help themselves. Sorry if that sounds harsh but it’s a sad fact.

By the way, you are on the hook for any fees that are being run up unless you can prove that the car was not titled to you at the time the infractions happened.
Written by Julie H about 1 year ago.

You need to make sure that car is still not titled in your name or you are responsible for any accidents. You gave him the car because he didn’t have one because he is a loser on Meth. You can’t change that. Find out who has the car and make them sign a bill of sale to get your name off the title.
Written by Harper's Mom about 1 year ago.

you need to call the police asap. then you need to call child protective services.
i wouldn’t be angry. i’d be furious. you have every right in the world to be mad.
people who choose drugs over the well being of their child, which is what they did since you gave them a vehicle to help them care for him/her, are child abusers. your husband is not only enabling their drug habit, he’s also enabling their child abuse.
Written by Trasformation about 1 year ago.

Um, you have every right to be angry. I would be fuming actually if I were you
Written by Ms. B about 1 year ago.

Report the car stolen. Tell the police that you lended the car to your husbands friend for a few days and he decided to trade it in for drugs and you have no idea where it is now. They will take care of the situation for you since the car is still under your name. You should also contact Child Protective Services so that they can find that poor little boy a drug free family to take care of him.

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