I guess you could call my husband an alcohol. He drinks excessively a lot of the time and tends to give up spending time with me in order to drink alone. I know he has problems with alcohol and it has only gotten worse with the passing of his best friend. Understandably he is upset but it has been 2 years now since the accident and he still is so angry and upset, and when he drinks his moods are unpredictable: he could be super happy or so angry that he just yells about anything. We have a 7 month old son together and I don’t want him growing up with bad memories of his father. My husband’s father was actually an alcoholic and he barely talked to him for years because he was traumatized as a child by his father’s drunken behavior. Which is why I can’t really understand why he is acting this way! We have discussed it briefly before but he doesn’t feel he has a problem with alcohol, he feels he could stop any time but he just doesn’t want to. I don’t want to leave him and I know he won’t go to councelling. I am just wondering if there’s anything else I can do to maybe make him see how he is really acting?! So he can choose to change for himself to prevent our son from seeing his father as a drunk.
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Written by slygirl13us about 9 months ago.
Try having a talk with your husband, if that makes no improvment, approach family and friend for help. For alcoholics rehab is a plus, but it’s up to him to decide to change.
good luck, and stay strong. -
Written by rpetch007 about 9 months ago.
yes there is .. one thing you can do……… LEAVE HIM NOW..so your son wont have to put up with this drunk…come on girl get out now before its to late .. as he wont change unless you make him..
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Written by khadiya about 9 months ago.
Some people believe this is hereditary.
He is depressed. It may be a deeper reason as to why he drinks like he do. A lot of alcoholics do this to take away the pain, although they know it will come back, its gone for the time being and that’s what they like. My mother is an alcoholic. The first stage is denial. You have to find a way to show him his problem so he cant confront it. Then you should try to get him outside help.
My mother realized her problem after she called the police and told them she needed “help” and then blamed my father for calling them!
Even though she realized her problem, she wont get help because no one is trying. My dad doesn’t want to be the “bad guy” and neither does anyone else.
Do what you can do now before it gets worse. -
Written by tally_fan about 9 months ago.
A drastic measure would be to put up little spy camera’s so that you can show him later how he acts when he is drunk.Another thing you should explain to your husband is that it is his loved one’s who he trusts that get to say if he has a drinking problem or not.The definition of any ” problem ” either drug or alchohol or any other substance,is when it interferes in your life and brings negative consequences with it.The loved one’s are the first to pick up on these .
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Written by byrrdinca about 9 months ago.
One thing you have to remember….You can’t change anybody but yourself….what he is is what he is….There is nothing you can do about it. Being on his back about it will make him drink more and more in hiding…
You make the decision on what you should do because in your heart, you know what you should do!!! He will not change…do your research…alcoholism is in the BLOOD!
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Written by Jack about 9 months ago.
As a recovering alcoholic. Ask him to seek help. Remember he is the only one that can make it work. If he doesn’t you need to take your son and leave or live in misery.
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Written by stevescott28 about 9 months ago.
The sad thing is he got to be the one that wants to quit. Maybe you actually leaving him will show him you are serious about how you feel.If he is not willing to give up the bottle for his family, he is not worth it. You want to break the cycle now , before your son ends up that way.
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