My fiance and I have been together for five years, engaged for seven months. We are both 21, except I’m 6 months older than her. We have a 16 month old son together and we are living in an apartment. She stays home with him and doesn’t work. She is going back to school to get her high school diploma finally, and I’m am in college. A few days ago we got into an argument and she left with our son saying she was going to get groceries. She was pretty upset, and later after she got back she told me she really went to see someone she used to hang out with when she did drugs. She did go to the grocery store though, but only after talking to that guy for like 30 minutes. I’m not sure if she slept with him before I don’t think so but she might have, meth changes people when they are under the influence. I know for a fact that she has slept with at least 11 guys, though there is probably more. She used to do meth and sleep with other guys. She has done meth once since our son was born, but she says she doesn’t want to do it anymore; she felt bad after. That was back in 2007 though. Now I’m beginning to question if I should stay with her? I have the feeling that she can change her actions, but she will always like that scene and hanging out with thugs. I know she has a strong sense of responsibility now that we have a son, but what is stopping her from hanging out with old friends? When we get into serious arguments, she tends to look to her old acquaintances or boyfriend for support, and goes to talk with them? These arguments rarely happen though, and when I just let her speak her mind and tell me what to do I feel like she is trying to boss me around. Most of the time it is me that starts those arguments where she talks to them. I was thinking about splitting up with her today so bad, but I am worried about not seeing my son anymore. I know she loves me and I love her, but what should I do? I have talked with her about counseling, and she agrees we need it. I’m not sure if that will fix things though. I have looked it up, and our relationship has all the symptoms of a Toxic Relationship. I have read that people in a toxic relationship shouldn’t stay together, both partners just get worse and worse. Am I just killing myself slowly by staying with her? Please Help!
I forgot to mention, that those are people in her past before we got together. I meant to say 10 people, that is including me also.
Oh and by the way, she doesn’t do meth anymore. She has done it in the past, and she quit when she found out she was pregnant. She never did it again while she knew she was pregnant. She did do it once after my son was born, because she was stressed out cause I split up with her for a couple weeks cause I thought she was cheating on me then, but come to find out she didn’t. She said she felt guilty doing it and she gave whatever of the drug was left to her friend. She says she hasn’t done it since and I believe her, because I know how she acts when she is under its influence; and she hasn’t acted like that ever since that one time.
She hasn’t slept with anyone else since we have been together steady now for 2 years and 2 months.