I have allowed my younger brother to live with myself, my fiance, and my newborn son. He does pay rent, but a much smaller portion than we do. I have repeatedly asked him to not smoke his pot in the house, especially when the baby is home. He also smokes cigarettes, but always outside. I understand his reluctance to smoke pot outside, but he has many friend’s houses he could go to. I feel very betrayed that he consistently chooses drugs over his nephew. It culminated the other night, and I took my son and slept at my parents house, just to get him away. I have not spoken to my brother since (he is on vacation for a week), but I cannot allow this to go on around my child. At the same time, I do not want to give up on my brother because I know he does this to avoid dealing with personal tragedies. I can’t ask him to stop smoking, he is an adult and an admitted addict, but he WILL not do it in the vincinity of my child. Is this a lost cause, and am I going to have to kick him out?
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Written by beachlover about 2 years ago.
Tell him if he smokes it inside you WILL kick him out and you should stay to your word-your baby is more important am I right?- Why not suggest to him to smoke in the backyard so its not in the house but not in public(police) view. And sadly it is most likely a lost cause becuase he probally does not take you seriously. * hey also if you do have to kick him out please dont feel bad about it because Im sure some of his friends could take him in and worse comes to worse your parents probally would to. =)
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Written by Amanda about 2 years ago.
Since he is ur brother dont kick him out..but tell him if he wants to smoke then to go to a friends house or where ever as long as hes not in the house doing it..scare him a little too tell him he will have to move out if he continues to smoke pot in the house…i hope i helped a little!
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Written by djlancerock about 2 years ago.
Tell him if he smokes to go to a friends house.. or outside.. and say that you will kick him out if he continues to disrespect you./
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Written by Young V about 2 years ago.
If you want your baby to be a normal person, KICK HIS ASSSS OUT. If you dont your baby will probably smoke pot as well when he’s older. Don’t ruin the baby, dont take the chance, kisk him out before its too late.
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Written by Brittney B about 2 years ago.
take him to court
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Written by Doogie about 2 years ago.
Well maybe you should take and sit him down in a room where you and him can be alone and tell him how this makes him feel and if he doesnt stop smoking start taking away his money or kick him out and if you do kick him out tell him to get high at his friends house
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Written by gracekelly3rd about 2 years ago.
i do not beleive in anyone smoking anything in the house. it stinks the whole house out. make it a rule.
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Written by mithril about 2 years ago.
You’re going to have to let him know this is serious. If he’s admitted to addiction, will he seek help? Otherwise you are an enabler.
Look, your newborn is your priority. Childhood breathing problems are on the rise, and it’s because of stuff like this.
Plus, if he has it (the drugs) in your dwelling, you are legally liable for it, and you could wind up getting arrested. Check your local laws about that. But either way, Child Protective Services will get involved.
It really sounds like it’s time for your brother to get a place of his own with a couple of his like minded friends so he can live his life the way he wants to with much less hassle from family.
All the best to you.
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Written by layacarea about 2 years ago.
sit down with him and your baby, and ask him to hold your son. talk to him gently and ask him to please be considerate about your baby’s health. tell him you care for him and understand that he’s been through a lot, but you also want him to understand YOUR view not only as an older sister, but as a mother. let him know that while you care for him, your higher priority is the health of your baby and that if it continues, you will be forced to make him leave. offer to help him find support either in a rehab center or some other activity that will help him take his mind off pot and his stresses.
it might be hard to get this all out to him, but i hope it helps.
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Written by Scott about 2 years ago.
Your brother is doing illegal drugs and you’re better off reporting him to the police. They’re more experienced at dealing with this.
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