My 23 yr old son has epilepsy, Tourette’s Syndrome, OCD, Anxiety, Social Anxiety and a touch of depression.?

21/05/2011 admin 10 comments

I am having a hard time dealing with him. I don’t think he should be living at home with me because he thinks he has it made. He is a financial and emotional burden. We have been to numerous drs and therapists and they have only helped temporarily or not at all. I have tried to encourage him to get a job but they all fold, He can’t even wrap Whoppers at BK because the thin paper gets to messed up. I am at my wits end. He is a great burden and I don’t have any family support. I can’t continue on this path. I feel like I’m enabling him. He tried college 6 times and had to withdraw each semester because of seizures and bad side effects of his medication and oh yes, I’ve tried prayer too and so have my coworkers and relatives. I have run out of ideas to help him. His dad died and was a no good alcoholic.

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Written by dog biscuit about 1 year ago.

with all the thing s you have named..i can tell you he has more than “a touch” of depression
Written by fukingruvin76118 about 1 year ago.

put him up for adoption or taking him out hunting!
Written by AttieTewd about 1 year ago.

not sure what country you are in but your son should have had a doctor or doctors over the years. have you asked about getting respite care or a home for challenged adults that will help him? keep looking for help. it must be there someplace. if it isnt there, then challenge the system. people do that quite often when the problems that occur in their family doesnt fit what care is out there, i wish you luck
Written by aussygirl87 about 1 year ago.

Have you tried to apply for him to receive social security dissability? then that way he wouldn’t be such an economic burden on you, do you have any kind of achievement center in your area they hire mentally handicapped adults and give them jobs, have tryied Electroconvulsive Therapy, I know that may sound a bit harsh but it has been proven to be very safe now days, just a thought….
Written by Websurfer about 1 year ago.

First of all, and if you haven’t already, you (depending on where you live) should see if he qualifies for disability. This would give you medical coverage to get him proper care. (I’ve had a couple of the things listed and there are medications and therapies out there.) Then you need to get him into a facility (even if only temporarily) where they can evaluate him and design a program that can help him become a productive part of society. If you have enabled him all these years there could be a degree of manipulation on his part. Because you love him you should not continue to enable him. You owe it to him and to yourself to get him proper care. If the doctor’s are not doing their job then you need to write to every local politician and health care governing agency. (Always write to the person at the very top. Their secretary has more power than normal customer service.) Tell someone the urgency of your story and the brick walls you have come up against with the medical community. If you don’t make a lot of noise, no one will hear you. Good luck.
Written by fluffy the wonderdog about 1 year ago.

half way house
easter seals center
counseling for everyone—-for as long as it takes
you should help him get out on his own, you won’t be alive forever
Written by realgirl about 1 year ago.

arew you seriuos? IF U ARE, then too bad. you had him now carry the burden to your death. im serious, with all these disabilities he is your responsability, if he had down syndrome, would you throw him out into the street? i hope not,. so all of these illnesses make him your kid for ever.
Written by Nurse Kelly about 1 year ago.

You are making me Depressed just reading this.I’m 23, turning 24 and I have Epilepsy, Asthma, Anxiety, PTSD and I live on my own and I’m studying at university. I had to get a social worker to help me move out because my mother was too much of a control freak to let me move out on my own. She was getting money from me living with her (since I have a disibility and she could claim to be my carer) so she wouldn’t let me leave the house. Unless he is not taking medication, the medication for anxiety should deal with the Anxiety, Social Anxiety and a large propotion of the OCD (since it starts with anxiety). He also needs counselling and so do you. I’m not surprised depression is coming into the picture. He probably feels like the burden you are expressing him to be.
Written by artygal about 1 year ago.

what about supporting him. being kind. look at the words you are using “burden” etc.

He has health problems. you need to accept this. try loving him. be non judgemental

you are his mum.

ok it’s hard. so get support yourself. are you running on empty?

my advice is self care. pamper yourself, buy yourself new clothes, bubble baths etc

and lots of people that age still live with their parents.

I think it would help for yourself to see a counsellor. keep going to a different one until you find one that works for u.

He needs you to be there for him through this difficult time. at least he tried to go to college

about the siezures you could try reading “cure of all diseases” by hulda clark. You might not like it but it is quite remarkable. it has advice on all sorts of conditions. I think one of the things to avoid would be having bleach in the house. i can’t remember the rest.

Have you tried feng shui? ? A book I can recommend is clear your clutter with feng shui by karen kingston. that book is amazing. your home environment can really affect how you feel.

good luck…

u could also try the gym. makes you feel good

god bless
Written by SunnyGirl about 1 year ago.

We cannot control what kinds of things (esp medical) Life Brings us. It is NOT your child’s fault that he has these problems! Do you think that he asked to have Epilepsy? Tourette’s Syndrome? OCD? Anxiety? or Depression? – I DON’T THINK SO!! If you all of a sudden got cancer or MS or Muscular Distrophy or Parkinsons or had a spinal cord injusry and became a parapelegic would you want your son to put you in a nursing home?

We cannot control what comes our way. Sounds to me like you cannot “ACCEPT” your son with his problems. No, he is not perfect – BUT NEITHER ARE YOU, ME, OR ANYONE ON THIS PLANET!! Everyone has problems of some nature!! You have to love him and see beyond his issues and stop “judging him”. You need to encourage him to get the help he needs and be there to support him. In the mean time if you are stressed out, join a support group – that is what they are there for.

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