Mother-Son Relationship….?

11/05/2011 admin 9 comments

Ever since my Mom and Dad divorced it has all been downhill and I struggle with my Mom all the time. She has become a compulsive gambler and alcoholic (which broke up the family), and even started smoking, which she never did before. We tried as a family to go to the classes and get her to attend which she refused and my divorced her soon after. I then noticed that she stopped trying to be my Mom and instead wanted to be my friend, and I didn’t respect that. So she started to turn on me calling me the family failure, tried to turn me on my father, and cried every time I disapproved of her new party attitude. Now she is so flustered at me, she has supposedly cut me off all together and told me that we are done and without skipping a beat, I said ok and wasn’t bothered by it but in my heart though I worry about her. It’s only been a few days, and I don’t feel I should have to give in. She has done nothing to change and every time before where I trusted her to change, she lied to me. I am not sure where to go from here, any help?
I am 25 for the one who is asking….
Lots of good answers, you have all been helpful, thank you all very much

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Written by John about 1 year ago.

Something is wrong with your mom. It is ok to go your own way. I did with my father many years ago. Someday, maybe, come back and give her a chance. But right now, she doesn’t deserve any effort you give.
Written by sujata s about 1 year ago.

i dont know how old u r.if you r in your teens or older then you could make her understand your feelings.if you r younger you can get help from your grandparents or your dad.
Written by H A about 1 year ago.

You have done right. And sometimes no matter how hard you try the person won’t comply. You must understand that she must want the help. If she refuses time and time again, then there is very little you can do. Unless you feel that she is a threat to her self, then go see a counselor and let them know of the situation. She sounds as if she has almost hit rock bottom. And whether you know it or not YOU DID NOT GIVE UP because you are still concern about your mom. You are a very strong indiviual. You have my respect and admiration.
Written by Tammy848 about 1 year ago.

You tried everything you could, If she isn’t going to listen to you then she is not worth it, try talking to a friend or a counceller about it.
I know how hard it is, I also had a mother that was like this and I tried very hard to change her but all I got was slap’s in the face and also got called the family failure and I got treated like the black sheep.
Try moving out and living with some other family relatives then your mother might realize how much she misses you.
I hope I helped and good luck.
Written by shenaz about 1 year ago.

i think your mother is full of stress and tensions. and she is fadeup with her life. what she is doing is that she dont want to tackel the reallity of life. what she is doing because of she herself does known what she want. by the divorce of your parents it may effects her mentally also. thats y she is broken from her mind and soul. i think you shuld make her comfertable and talk to her. what is the problem she is facing? take her to nrew atmosphere and give her changes to cope up with life. do this i think it will work.
shenaz
Written by gkakkasseri about 1 year ago.

THE MAIN CAUSE OF YOUR DADDY LEAVING YOUR MOTHER IS THE SAME REASON . SHE IS INCORRIGIBLE. PLEASE NOTE THAT HER BAD COMPANY ALSO IS THE CAUSE. THE SHOCK OF SEPARATION SHE IS NOT IN A POSITION TO DIGEST.
1. MEET YOUR DAD AND REQUEST FOR UNITING EACH OTHER IF THERE IS A WAY.
2. IF NOT BETTER YOU ALSO SEE YOUR WAY AND GET OUT OF THIS MESS.
Written by melissa_froggies about 1 year ago.

Its always hard on the children in divorce no matter what age.Your mom has chosen her way to deal with this,all you can do is let her do her thing,call her every now and then just to say i love you then hang up.Then when she comes around you wont get blamed for desserting her in a time of need.Good luck God bless:O)
Written by slick25 about 1 year ago.

I am 25 years old too, and my mom is a compulsive gambler also, ever since my parents divorced when I was 12 years old. I live with my mom right now with my 10 month old son. Gamblers make a living out of lying. I am going through a divorce and have little money, no furniture, and no where to go but to my mom. She took 3000 dollars from me, when she knew I didn’t have anything and a baby to support, this wasn’t her first time its about the 10th. My suggestion to you is gamblers keep lying, I don’t trust my mom either, and I will probably put a restraining order on her so she doesn’t come near anymore of my property when I get out of there. It hurts when someone close to you has a problem, but let her be, don’t talk to her and don’t trust her until she can actually show proof that she is getting help. Go to GA meetings with her if you have too. But if she cut you off, that is actually a good thing, because she needs to help herself before it is to late.
Written by aunt_beeaa about 1 year ago.

When your MOM hits rock bottom and asks for your help….is when you need to be there. You say yourself you’ve parted justed a few days ago.

Your MOM is sick…alcoholism and gambiling have taken over her life and no matter what you want her to do she’ll say that you’re the one with the problem not her.

Let her hit the ROCK BOTTOM……just be there to support the fall..don’t be an enabler and don’t give her $$$ to support her habits!!

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