ok. my fiance may not be my sons father. my fiance knows that, the other guy knows that and i know that. this other guy is 26 right now and i’m 19. the other guy, who we’ll call chris, has 2 other children from his hs sweetheart/ ex wife. i haven’t talked to him since i told him i was pregnant (jan 08). well in june/july of 08, my fiance’s younger sister and chris met by chance and started partying together. well of course she told him i was having a boy, when i was due, where i was delivering, what his name was going to be, where we were going to be living, what i was doing nowadays, ect. basically every thing about me and my pregnancy that was none of his business.

chris and i dated about 3 years ago but i was still a minor so my parents forbid us to be together. then we ran into each other dec of 07 and hooked up b/c we had some unresolved feelings, but now (at least i) have moved way way past that and want nothing to do w/ him. when we found out i was pregnant, my fiance said i want to be the babies father no matter what. i told chris that my fiance said that and he said well im going into the service in may (which never happened) so maybe thats best. well we never spoke again and the nwhen he ran in to sherry, my fiances sister, he was dating one of her friends who also worked with my friends mom. the girl he was dating said to my friends mom 1 day at work- “does your daughter still hang out with veronica?” and she said yes. then the girl said “i’m dating her babies father” and we found out chris has been telling people that he was the dad of my baby and when the baby got here he was going to set my fiance straight and come around and demand a paternity test, get visitation, ect. well my fiance called him cussing and told him off, pretty much. that no matter what happened he(chris) wouldn’t get involved and it wasn’t chris’s baby ect. well chris and sherry decided to cook up a plan to tell my fiance i was still sleeping with chris and had been for all these months since i got pregnant. well my fiance was on the verge of believing it when sherry came clean and said chris has been lying all along and he finally admitted it to her that he lied. i think sherry had more in it but whatever. well after my son was born we heard nothing from chris. i even heard through friends of friends of friends that he was telling people i had tried to pin my son on him but paternity testing proved otherwise,i’m a whore it could be any1′s baby, plus the timing was months off and there was no way he had gotten me pregnant. so he isn’t interested in being the dad, which is a good thing. his two other children live in the same house as him, but his parents have full custody b/c the mom is a crack head and he signed custody to the grandparents willingly a long time ago. he spends his time drinking (and driving) partying, staying out all night ect. he also never went into the service and lost his job for along time. he lives with his parents and has never lived elsewhere except for 4 months a few years ago and three years when he lived with his wife, now ex. he is a piss poor dad and he is a manipulative, lying person. he steals and even does drugs from time to time (at least he did when i used to talk to him, doubt he has quit)
the thing is, my fiance waved the paternity test. our son looks just like my fiance so i really have no doubt that the baby is his, and niether does he. the thing is, chris is just the type to request a test just to stir things up and be an a-hole like he was before with the whole “were still having sex” thing. it bothers me that chris may one day get this idea into his head. if we see each other out in public (we live in the same town) i don’t want him to feel that i was rude (b/c i certainly won’t be friendly) and then go wow that baby looks like me i want to pursue a paternity test. just to be a jerk.

am i worrying for nothing? i get paranoid about this and stay on the look out everytime i leave the house. i never ever want chris to see the baby. am i being too paranoid?

please no rude answers. i am well aware and sorry for the mistakes i have made. i know this entire situation is my fault and i’m not passing the blame to any1 else.

thank you