clearly there was an exact incident that prompted the fight.

it is also a fact that you failed to mention what that event was in your question, so I’m willing to bet you know full well you were wrong about it.

you even go so far as to “explain” why you are [over???] protective because of your ex-wife, bla, bla, bla,. It doesn’t take a degree in psychology to see you’ve got some issues and aren’t thinking objectively.

and that’s without even hearing her side of the story.

Wow – a woman wanting to adopt your child; does she have a twin sister? While it’s not all that uncommon, my guess is she wants to demonstrate her willingness to fully accept you, including your heirs. Try this manly example as an analogy; it appears you are anticipating the firearm’s recoil enough to cause the ammunition to miss the intended target. The response resembles keeping her at an arms distance. Her attempts to be a help mate in training your son is met with resistance and possibly defiance, giving your son a mixed message – his step-mom has no authority in his life, nor will other female figures he may encounter later in life. Not good if your son ends up working for a seasoned female manager. Take heart – she is willing to help and time is on your side. You, after all, are dealing with elevated levels of biological changes in your pregnant wife. Wait until she delivers the child and explore her interest and motives for adopting your son. Do take the time to demonstrate to your son the authority his step-mom carries while your home, so when you are gone there is an adult ensuring things remain safe & secure long before the teenage boy appears. Let your wife roam you playpen. Be happy she’s in your playpen. I am waiting to play in sweet Mildred’s playpen with you.