my wife left me last november to go on a crazy drug and sex binge while lying to me about it so i would continue to support her. this summer she moved to colorado with her drug dealer boyfriend which ended with her on probation and being drug tested. i recieved a sorrow filled letter saying that she was sorry she hurt me and that she wanted to be my wife. i visited for halloween to take my sons trick or treating and the three of them and her parents were lobbying for me to move there and be a father and husband again, which is something ive always been very good at. i love and miss all three so much, my wife cried on my shoulder for a half hour the night i left and i know she knows she messed up. but she is still contacting a guy she was with during the seperation. all my family and friends advise me to stay away, but i miss them so much and want so badly to believe.
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Written by Mark Donald about 1 year ago.
stay away. it wont work, i have a modo if we break up once then we would break up twice stay away man trust me you dont want this
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Written by LK96843 about 1 year ago.
I would suggest getting custody of your children ASAP. It sounds like she’s not done with the drug dealer boyfriend so I would be very leary of her motives. In the meantime, how much of a mother can she be to your children?
Get going and get those kids out of there.
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Written by sunshine11 about 1 year ago.
Nobody can answer your question intelligently if you don’t try. It’s up to you but you have to keep a positive outlook and an open mind if you go to really make it work. Good luck
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Written by alaskacpu about 1 year ago.
Recommendation: Don’t – you deserve much better.
You can run through life pleasing and paying for other peoples mistakes – or you can stop and start living life for yourself.
Hope you find your answers.
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Written by cool breeze about 1 year ago.
Prenuptial agreement..next time she runs off you keep the kids..get it in writing or have her sign over full custody now,then let her live with you and the kids as long as she behaves.
If she is serious about staying and doing right,she should be willing to sign something. -
Written by Stephanie R about 1 year ago.
OMG… My heart is breaking for you. I have a friend that was in the same situation only she was in your wife’s position. She went back home to her husband. Her husband was very guarded and scared but waited her and their children home sooo badly. She secretly told me that she was only going back however to have the financial stability and have a better cover of her boyfriend and drug use. She uses oxy 30′s several times a day. She does it while he’s at work and plays the good little housewife, has sex with the boyfriend when he is gone and plays the housewife role very well when he is around. IT IS AWFUL to watch. But, I totally understand your need and want for your family. However, a very high percentage of people that lead that life cant end it without help. I hope your situation works out for you and your family. But, you need to be very, very cautious and very, very tenacious with her whereabouts, phone and so on. Make sure she continues to drug test OFTEN. Some people can change. Hang in there!
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Written by crystal about 1 year ago.
I think you should do it if you love her and miss the kids why suffer any longer. You both have had time to think and see where you might have messed up so take a chance and do it you deserve to be happy. If you can even if it doesn’t work you have good memories I think your family is scared for you and with reason but you need to explain how you feel they all wont be here forever but your wife might be.Before you do this if you decide to be with her make sure the drugs are history thats why she left to begin with ,I am not using drugs as a excuse for her i am just saying it had alot to do with what she did back then.Good luck with what ever you decide
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Written by CHICKA about 1 year ago.
If she was truly sorrey she would not be contacting a guy she was with. Now, be a good man and get full custody of your kids and make sure you keep those babys safe. She has made her bed let her lay alone in it. STOP This madness SAVE YOUR KIDS AND GET FULL CUSTODY! Why are you allowing this woman to take your kids to live with a drug dealer and she is on drugs? U have proof through her probation. Do your kids not deserve a SAFE home and someone responsible to make sure they get the education they need? BE a FATHER and get your kids. Then after a year of being sober maybe, but by then hopefully you can deciede on what is best for your children.
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Written by rebel with a cause about 1 year ago.
petition for custody. it sounds like you miss your kids, not so much for your ex. you think that she comes with the package of having your kids, she’s not. and i’m not saying anything about the 12 steps, they make you have to change but you have to accept that you made the choice and you have to live with your consequences. and mostly it’s not a cop out to bad behavior, it’s how to be better with the people around you.
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Written by beamer about 1 year ago.
Dear I’m So Tired,
Don’t you believe it for a moment; I do understand how you would want the family unity but it will never be the same. Let her wallow in what she has done and as for reconciliation there have got to be terms.
1. Drug counseling and program
2. No contact with her so called Buds (any, as they mabe drug related)
3. Marriage counseling
4. Family counseling
I’d be willing to bet you she won’t go for it? If she does then a six month trial period to show her good faith and that she is clean (drug testing also). Otherwise no deal. Don’t be a fool be careful! -
Written by Barb Outhere about 1 year ago.
“Is my wife for real about reconciliation?” NO. Its that simple. WHY?
The truth is in that line “…but she is still contacting a guy she was with during the separation…”. Because if she was serious about giving the marriage a second chance, and turning her life back around, then she’d be AVOIDING like the plague all contact with her drug dealer boyfriend. There’s no hope for a real reconciliation, or a lasting change of lifestyle while that is still going on. And believe me, if they are still in contact, it IS still going on – no matter what other reasons she gives for staying in touch with him.
Sorry. -
Written by spud about 1 year ago.
grow a pair and end it. she doesnt love you
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