Is it wrong of me to take away my son’s father’s parental rights?

01/04/2011 admin 6 comments

So, I’m 5 months pregnant and my unborn son’s father has never been around. When I contacted him to tell him the gender of the baby, he said, “I didn’t realize you were still pregnant”. We were together for 8 months and decided we wanted kids. Two weeks after I told him I was pregnant, he dissapeared and reappeared with a girlfriend (girl’s are stupid. Who would date a guy with an unborn child on the way?) Anyway, he is STILL not around. I have all these emotions and needs for an expected mother, and he refuses to return my e-mails or phone calls. He asked for ultrasound pictures. When I brought them to him he hardly even glanced at them. He has a DVD made of the ultrasound which I want back, but I don’t even want to see him. It took me a week to get over my rage after seeing him last time. It has been 5 months (minus the ultrasound visit) since I’ve even seen him. I ran into him and his girlfriend in public, and he dissapeared…as usual. I don’t deserve this. I know he is an alcoholic and I don’t want my child around that. I want to ask him to relinquish his rights so I can not always wonder what he’s doing and why he isn’t calling ona 24/7 basis. Is it wrong of me? This resentment and dissapointment is already too much, I couldn’t imagen the issues when my child is actually born.
First off, the father can sign to give up his rights. Secondly, I am also talking about the option of soul custody. I understand all the legal crap. To spare details in a lenghty message I didn’t go on and on.

Also, HE OBVIOUSLY DOESN’T WANT TO BE AROUND, OTHERWISE HE WOULD!!! DUH!!! I am not pressuring him. I hardly EVER contact him. Read people!!! I contacted him to invite him to the ultrasounds, which he declined. And contacted him to tell him his an asshole. And once more to tell him it is what it is, and I’d like him to be there, yet still NO ACTION!!!

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Written by Sandy about 1 year ago.

I would ask if he wants to be a part of the babys life or not. I wouldnt right away say give up rights. You did both mutually make the child. I would just ask and if you dont get an answer then leave it alone. He will eventually on his own come around. Everyone runs when they feel pressured so if you back off he’ll come to on his own. He obviously has some issues that he needs to work out. He’s selfish and you dont need that right now anyways.Focus on the health of your unborn child.
Written by missbeans about 1 year ago.

It isn’t this simple. According to our laws, a child has a right to be supported by both of his or her parents. A court will only take the parental rights away from a parent if it is in the best interest of the child. The deciding factors are based on whether the parent is unfit, or whether there is someone willing to adopt the child who will be more beneficial to the child. They will not take away his rights just because he is a bad person. He has an obligation to support that child, whether he is going to be around or not.
Written by Confused about 1 year ago.

I’m sorry that you are going through all of this during what is supposed to be a happy time. You are not wrong for having the feelings that you are expierencing now. He may come around and actually be a good father. Then again he may not (my father did the same thing to my Mother) Keep your head up and congrats on your baby.
Written by jassylove3 about 1 year ago.

IT IS NOT WRONG…
I with my first child went through the same thing..
I didn’t put his name on the birth certificate, and if he ever tried to fight for his parental rights I can always bring up his drug addiction and bi polar condition… which make him unable to care for my child
IF YOU DON’T PUT HIM ON THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE HE CAN’T HAVE RIGHTS..
IF YOU NEED CHILD SUPPORT which you should do you can tell the judge why you don’t think he is capable of handling your child..
but you will need a darn good LAWYER..
I hoped I helped lots of love
pregnancy is a time of JOY* so ENJOY what you can and wish you the best if you need someone to talk to e-mail me
Written by amsam about 1 year ago.

you’re right about one thing, girls ARE stupid.
Written by choice_4_men about 1 year ago.

First off, you can’t take away his rights. The child is not a piece of property for you to make decisions like that. The only way that can be done is if he agrees or a judge takes them.

Second, this situation is just as much your responsibility as his. You made the choice to date this man, you made the choice to have unprotected sex with him and you made the choice to make him the father of your child.

Now that you’ve made those choices, provide a good example for your child and let the father have a relationship with his son if he’s willing.

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