I have been married to my husband for almost 2 years, and we have a 6 month old son. When we first met, he was a great man, but he changed as soon as he found out that I was pregnant. He went from staying at home and being a husband, to hanging out at bars and clubs every weekend all hours of the night. We separated 2 weeks after our son was born. He lives with his mom, he has no job, and any money he gets he spends on alcohol and marijuana, not our son. I know we took our vows for better or worse, but I cannot deal with him. He says he never goes out, but he still hangs out with his “friend” every day. She drinks and smokes weed as much as he does, and she is 18. I don’t understand why he is even “friends” with her when he will be 36 years old next month. I am 28 years old by the way. What do I do? I gave him an ultimatum to either be there for me and our son and clean up his act and stop being friends with her, or we will no longer be a family. Did I do the right thing? And can I get a divorce because of it?
Also, his mom has kicked him out of the house twice, one time being last week and he is crying to me to help him. He even let his “friend” attack me when I told her to mind her business because my husband and I had an argument. I pressed charges against her and he sat there and did nothing. Instead he ran away from the incident and said that he doesn’t get in female conflicts.
He even let her use his phone to text and call me harrassing me, and I cursed her out and told her not to call me again. I am so tired of this.