You can’t, they have to change because they want to. I know how you feel though, but you are powerless to stop their addiction. All you can do is tell him that it upsets you when they drink and that you are worried for them.

You can’t change them….they have to change themselves, and want to change also. Good luck

When they make there mind up that the are gonna quit then you can have some hope. until then forget it

I wouldn’t change him. I’d get him somewhere or some help so that he can change himself and so he sees that alcohol is not the answer to his problems.

You can’t change someone. I’ve tried. I have a family member that has been an alcoholic for years. I have cried, begged, threatened, sought out help for him, gave him ultimatums, then tried to take the “it’s a disease” standpoint and nothing…..nothing has worked. He hit rock bottom a week ago and almost killed himself drinking and driving. Thank God he didn’t kill himself or anyone else. But, he came home and dumped all his beer out, cried, told all his family that he was sorry for being so irresponsible and that he was done. He is getting help now and everything that I have been telling him over the last 10 years he has repeated back to me verbatim. Not because he remembers the words I said, but because he can see past the alcohol and realizes he should have been dead. God has given him another shot at life. I hope that your family can recover too. His recovery is just beginning. It will take alot of support of the family to help him be successful.

You don’t have the power to change them, they have to come to this decision themselves. The hard part is watching them get to that point, as they usually fall very low, perhaps taking the family with them.
Sometimes it is best to stand back and look at your own reaction to their drinking. Can you help yourself first? Sometimes all that is left for you to do is to wait and hope.

You can’t change them. To start with they need to realize that they have a problem because there isn’t much you can do without that. Also maybe you could talk to your doctor about the possibility’s that are open to you.
Good Luck

You do not have the power to change anybody, most especially an alcoholic. You also cannot help an alcoholic. All you can do is educate yourself about the disease of alcoholism and help yourself. In the process, you will discover that the person who really needs to change is yourself. You can change your reaction to the alcoholic and you can change your attitude towards the alcoholic.

The best you can do to when a member of your family is an alcoholic is to help yourself. A good place to start is by visiting Al-Anon.