Doing bad in school would bother me the least. Because that in my opinion is doing the least harm to their body. The mortality rate for teenagers drinking and driving,very high. And having multiple partners,especially if unprotected,sexually transmitted diseases are scary. Not to mention the possibility of pregnancy.

C.
Because its not something that could kill them.

Least bothersome would be homosexual. I dont care if my daughter is lesbian or my son is gay. I would love them the same.

I would not be bothered at all if my child was homosexual. I’m not bothered by homosexuality, and I have a few friends that are homosexual.

I would be most bothered by them having multiple sex partners or any of the things listed in A. I’ve known people to mess up their lives and other peoples lives by doing them and I would have hoped I would have taught my child better.

Doing badly in school can be fixed usually pretty easily.

I wonder what’s behind this question. Parents criticizing someone for not doing their best in school? Kid saying, well at least I’m not having sex or doing drugs?

As a parent I would find them all bothersome, except for “homosexual.” That one doesn’t really belong in the same category, because it’s not necessarily a behavior that IN ITSELF is likely to have damaging effects (although there could be prejudice and harassment from others). It would be something I would just have to accept, unlike the other things.

I suppose the most worrisome of these to me would be drugs or drinking and driving, since these can be instantly deadly. One wrong choice could be irreversible and fatal. Their having multiple sex partners wouldn’t make me happy, but if they were practicing safe sex and weren’t being emotionally damaged, I guess I could live with it. Even teen pregnancy is not the end of the world if it is handled well.

But doing badly in school also has long term consequences. It affects your lifelong earning opportunities, chances of achieving your dreams, and your self-image. Even though it could be reversible, going back to school and repairing old academic mistakes is very costly.

Bottom line – they are all bad choices. Don’t make your parents decide between them.

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Least bothersome would be doing badly in school, not because that’s the least important one, but because it’s the one that’s most easily corrected.

Drugs and/or alcohol would be a huge worry, because both of those can have a deleterious effect on the still-developing teenage brain. Drinking and driving would also be a huge problem, for obvious reasons.

Part b) should actually be split up into two sections. Simply being gay wouldn’t be a problem at all; it’s not something that’s inherently wrong or harmful in any way. I’d do my best to make sure they understood that there was nothing wrong with them, in order to try and avoid the kinds of self-esteem issues that often leads young gay (and straight) people to the other issue covered in part b), that of having multiple sex partners.

That would concern me for two reasons – the obvious risk of contracting STDs if safer sex practices aren’t followed (and remember, not all STDs can be prevented by using a condom), and that it would probably be a symptom of some kind of self-esteem issue, as mentioned earlier.