My sons father and I were off/on x 3 (he first met his son when he was 18mo)- he was an alcoholic and abusive verbally and physically to me- my son remembers this. He was also verbally abusive to my daughter (not his) and my son. I finally left him, tried sharing my son with him- I made all the trips. I got my son into counseling when he was 5 (he seemed consumed with fearing his dad had enough to eat/place to live). I married- this man also has an etoh problem, hasnt always gotten along with my children, and hes been in prison. He is out and we are now in family counseling. My son struggles every year at this time- his father hasnt seen him in almost 3 years, only calls once/twice a year, paternal grandmother stops by once/yr and last told him his dad had been near visiting his other son. He struggles socially at school and I just want him to be happy. He takes alot of his anger out on me as I am sure he knows I wont leave him (he is now 10). Any ideas on how?