My husband died when my son was eleven years old. It was a very traumatic thing for my son for they were extremely close. He immediately dropped out of baseball, scouts, and his grades went from honor roll to failing. He withdrew into himself. I was working long hours and had no help from anyone with him. I did my best to keep up with him, but he got involved with the wrong crowd and started using pot, alcohol, and pills. I had him in counseling with the best (so-called best) child physiologist in our town from age 12 to 18. That did not help. I was so worried about him, I had the narcotic department at our local police department search his bedroom for drugs. They found nothing in his room. I would have rather seen him in jail than dead from a drug overdose. He has lost 5 friends to prescription drug overdose. I also prayed to God every single night to keep him safe and lead him down the right path. God heard my prayers because at about age 20 he did a complete turn around. He got into some trouble with the police and went to jail for setting a drug dealers car on fire. He faced serious charges of arson. That is when he dropped his circle of druggie friends. I stood by him through all of this. I told him I would help him but he would have to help himself. I laid down the law and told him the wild life had to stop. The arrest made him see what kind of “friends” he was hanging around I guess. I hired an attorney for him and went to every court appearance with him. I paid most of his fines. I stressed to him when I agreed to do this, that this would be the one and only time I would bail him out of trouble. He had to straighten his act up NOW. He is now 21 and he is now working at a fantastic job. He is buying a brand new car. He has big plans for his future. He no longer uses drugs. I know this because there are random drug test where he works. He has come so far, but he put me through living hell. I feel so blessed because I finally have my son back.

All I can say to you is I believe in the power of prayer. Also, continue to stand by your child and tell him how much you love him and how much you worry about him and the life he is leading. Don’t ever give up on him no matter what other people say. This is what I did. My son loves me very much. I think it bothered him how much he was hurting me too. I continually tell him about the dangers of drugs. I showed him news stories on television. Mostly I just loved him and made sure he knew how much I loved him. I cooked his favorite meals, took care of him when he was sick, listened to him when he wanted to talk, told him about God’s love and what a better life he could have for himself, did things that he liked to do with him like going fishing with him, taking him to his favorite restaurant for a meal where we could talk and I would have his attention, and just spending quality time away from home with him. This does not mean enable your child by giving them money that they can use on drugs, etc.

Prayers to you, and I sincerely wish you the best. It is never too late for your child to turn his life around.

You are not to blame! Nothing of this is your fault. I personally haven’t gone through this experience nor do I really understand what to do. I am sure, he received a 12 steps program in jail and it has helped him THEN. I have however, read books about parents who were living your life. You must, dear mother, think as much as you can for yourself. You have to take care of YOU before all his problems, drown you even more !! I found a link, that might help you. Other than that, my prayers are with you and stay strong !

While you are taking the correct steps (cutting him off financially) all you can do is offer to be there when he needs moral support and continue to give him advice, though don’t push the issue too much because doing so will only push him away.

However him using the situation with his child is not an excuse to use such a dangerous drug. If you believe it is as simple as he is not allowed to see his child, and he does want to see him, advice him to take it to the courts. A court ordered DNA test will ensure he gets visitation rights within a short period of time and he will no longer need to drugs to fill the void he feels. But it is imperative he straighten up before all this is done since the mother could easily use his drug addiction to keep him away from her child.

Good Luck.

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The thigh bone is connected to the hip bone, Come here girl I’m gonna kiss you all over like a lollipop, Male singer.

alliecat answer was…
Try Leoslyrics.com you should be able to find it there

How is that going to help if I don’t know the song title or artist?
I’ve tried Google and other sources with no luck.
If you don’t actually know the answer why even bother posting, unless its just to gain 2 points.
Thank you.