I think my son is on crystal meth?

30/07/2010 admin 11 comments

My oldest son is almost 20 years old. He is definitly on the wrong road. I believe he is doing crystal meth again after being clean for almost 3 years. When he was 16 he got into and ended up in all kinds of trouble with the law. When I found out what he was doing I turned him in myself and he ended up going to DYS, a juvenile prison for a little over a year. He hated me at first but we worked thru it and for awhile I actually felt like he was greatful that I did it. Now I see him spiraling down the same road. He wont admit it to me..he actually avoids me if at all possible. He doesnt live with me so he feels its none of my buisness. I have cut him off totally financialy. I just dont know what else I can do to help him now or make him see what hes doing to himself. He has a little boy that is almost a year old that he is not allowed to see. Ever since he and his girlfriend broke up and she refuses to let him see the baby things have been awful. This is when the drugs started again. I am willing to do anything and everything in my power and beyond to save my son. I keep hoping and praying for a way to do it without turning him in to cops. When I try to talk to him he either blows it off like im over reacting or gets angry with me and leaves. Has anyone been thru anything similar? Any advice you would like to share?
For the record, I didnt send him anywhere, the judge did and yes while in jail he was in a rehab program. I dont feel I failed him, I feel I saved him. I would rather him in a place getting help then have him runaway and end up killing himself.

DRUG REHABILITATION crystal, meth, think

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Written by Annelisse about 1 month ago.

I have had the same situation with my younger brother. I had him put in jail twice to get him off the meth. It has to be him to draw the line and be strong enough to get off the drugs. Your prayers and kindness and understading is the best way to help keep him from turning away from you. Just keep checking on how he is feeling. Things like that. He will confide in you if he knows you care and are concerned. He will come around. My brother is clean now after 20 some years. So, there’s cause to hope! Hang in there.
Written by Monkey about 1 month ago.

Honey I am so sorry.
I’m young myself, but if I had a child I don’t think I would know what to do.
He probably knows that it’s wrong to do it but he keeps doing it because he is stressed over his son.
He just went back to his old ways because he had so much to deal with and things were going wrong (I suppose, with his son and all).
I really don’t know what to tell you besides asking the police to check him and where he lives for drugs and to keep praying honey.
Just have faith in God and he will pull you and your son through.
Written by Fantabulous Fanny about 1 month ago.

you dont send addicts to a DETENTION CENTER
You send them to a rehab
You blew it! I wouldnt trust you either.
What did he learn in kiddy jail?
how to make bath tub crank
thats all
Written by The Gem about 1 month ago.

I asked the following question…

Anyone know this song?
The thigh bone is connected to the hip bone, Come here girl I’m gonna kiss you all over like a lollipop, Male singer.

alliecat answer was…
Try Leoslyrics.com you should be able to find it there

How is that going to help if I don’t know the song title or artist?
I’ve tried Google and other sources with no luck.
If you don’t actually know the answer why even bother posting, unless its just to gain 2 points.
Thank you.
Written by David about 1 month ago.

First of all I would like to say you are very brave for the way you handled your son when he first showed signs of drug use and you did the right thing. Unfortunately there is not much you can do now since you no longer have control over him as you once did.

While you are taking the correct steps (cutting him off financially) all you can do is offer to be there when he needs moral support and continue to give him advice, though don’t push the issue too much because doing so will only push him away.

However him using the situation with his child is not an excuse to use such a dangerous drug. If you believe it is as simple as he is not allowed to see his child, and he does want to see him, advice him to take it to the courts. A court ordered DNA test will ensure he gets visitation rights within a short period of time and he will no longer need to drugs to fill the void he feels. But it is imperative he straighten up before all this is done since the mother could easily use his drug addiction to keep him away from her child.

Good Luck.
Written by the self about 1 month ago.

pray for him before its too late
Written by Clo ! about 1 month ago.

I am disgusted by how people here have judged you ! How dare you? Have you lived through this horrible experience with your own child? Geez, back off a little bit !

You are not to blame! Nothing of this is your fault. I personally haven’t gone through this experience nor do I really understand what to do. I am sure, he received a 12 steps program in jail and it has helped him THEN. I have however, read books about parents who were living your life. You must, dear mother, think as much as you can for yourself. You have to take care of YOU before all his problems, drown you even more !! I found a link, that might help you. Other than that, my prayers are with you and stay strong !
Written by I have an answer ! about 1 month ago.

This happened to my cousin. His mother too, sent him to jail. He did the program, and is meth clean since 5 years. He went to College too! Therefore , “fantabolous fanny”, you’re totally wrong about not being able to go to College. We live in America and while not always, the criminal justice system works in favor for addicts, it has worked for my cousin. He turned his life around. He did it all by himself after his family, had already turned his back on him ! Everyone was broke and exhausted by him.
The addict, ultimately, has to “face up” and confront his demons once he is an adult, like the asker’s son. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger ! Enough “baby talk” with an addict. There is only so much help he wants and will receive from family members!!!
Written by Mother Nature about 1 month ago.

What Clo said!!!
Written by catz about 1 month ago.

I feel for you, I really do. Since your son is over 18, I don’t really know if there is anything you can do. When someone is abusing drugs or alcohol, only they themselves can make the decision to clean up. What I know is that sometimes the person has to hit rock bottom in order to wake up. I wish there were more options out there to help families. You might try finding an Al Anon meeting, something I was advised to do in order to cope with my husband’s issues, but I never did follow through. I’ve heard they (the meetings) can really help YOU. You might get some ideas there…http://www.soberrecovery.com/links/al-anon.html
Written by only me about 1 month ago.

First of all, my heart goes out to you. You did the right thing turning him in. Don’t let what other people say drag you down.

My husband died when my son was eleven years old. It was a very traumatic thing for my son for they were extremely close. He immediately dropped out of baseball, scouts, and his grades went from honor roll to failing. He withdrew into himself. I was working long hours and had no help from anyone with him. I did my best to keep up with him, but he got involved with the wrong crowd and started using pot, alcohol, and pills. I had him in counseling with the best (so-called best) child physiologist in our town from age 12 to 18. That did not help. I was so worried about him, I had the narcotic department at our local police department search his bedroom for drugs. They found nothing in his room. I would have rather seen him in jail than dead from a drug overdose. He has lost 5 friends to prescription drug overdose. I also prayed to God every single night to keep him safe and lead him down the right path. God heard my prayers because at about age 20 he did a complete turn around. He got into some trouble with the police and went to jail for setting a drug dealers car on fire. He faced serious charges of arson. That is when he dropped his circle of druggie friends. I stood by him through all of this. I told him I would help him but he would have to help himself. I laid down the law and told him the wild life had to stop. The arrest made him see what kind of “friends” he was hanging around I guess. I hired an attorney for him and went to every court appearance with him. I paid most of his fines. I stressed to him when I agreed to do this, that this would be the one and only time I would bail him out of trouble. He had to straighten his act up NOW. He is now 21 and he is now working at a fantastic job. He is buying a brand new car. He has big plans for his future. He no longer uses drugs. I know this because there are random drug test where he works. He has come so far, but he put me through living hell. I feel so blessed because I finally have my son back.

All I can say to you is I believe in the power of prayer. Also, continue to stand by your child and tell him how much you love him and how much you worry about him and the life he is leading. Don’t ever give up on him no matter what other people say. This is what I did. My son loves me very much. I think it bothered him how much he was hurting me too. I continually tell him about the dangers of drugs. I showed him news stories on television. Mostly I just loved him and made sure he knew how much I loved him. I cooked his favorite meals, took care of him when he was sick, listened to him when he wanted to talk, told him about God’s love and what a better life he could have for himself, did things that he liked to do with him like going fishing with him, taking him to his favorite restaurant for a meal where we could talk and I would have his attention, and just spending quality time away from home with him. This does not mean enable your child by giving them money that they can use on drugs, etc.

Prayers to you, and I sincerely wish you the best. It is never too late for your child to turn his life around.

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