i want to confront him but i dont want to seem like a uncool dad. What do I do?
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Written by Rami S about 2 years ago.
confront him screw being a cool dad hes 15
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Written by Welsh.Chic about 2 years ago.
Confront him!
Being an “cool” dad goes out of the window right now. At times like these you need to be the parent not a friend.
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Written by momof4 about 2 years ago.
if this is a serious question, the last thing i’d worry about at the moment is seeming uncool.
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Written by Leslie about 2 years ago.
uh, hello your the dad./ who cares if you seem un-cool. i’m 17 and if my dad found that junk in my 15 yo bro’s room, all hell would break loose and i guarantee my bro would never touch the stuff again. if you want what’s best for your kid. you wouldn’t be too worried about what he thought of you.
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Written by Allison P about 2 years ago.
If it were a little weed, I’d say no big, but COCAINE. YOu have to talk to him at the very least and keep a close eye on him. He may have a real problem, and it’s an addiction that is very hard to give up. It’s also one of the most expensive drugs out there. I would wonder where he got the money.
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Written by Jesse S about 2 years ago.
Your the parent, and I believe the best addage in this case is “tough love”.
Not sure where you live, but i’m pretty sure Cocaine is considered a controlled substance and narcotic in most of North America. He has the substance for one of two reasons, trafficing, or consuming. In either case something has to be done.
When I was younger I pulled a weapon on my babysitter, (for reasons that seemed important then, but are trivial now). I went to sleep that night, was woken up at 3am by my parents, dragged to the police station, and my parents asked to press charges against me. I was too young at the time, but it scared the hell out of me. Had no problems since.
Turn your son in. I know you think blood is thicker than water, you think “what kind of father are you” if you do this to your own flesh and blood. But I ask you, what kind of father lets his son start down a path which may lead to further substance abuse, over dosing, loss of family,friends, jobs.
Do the straight up thing, turn him in, get him help, and never ever let your son think that you have stopped loving him.
Good luck.
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Written by Mari about 2 years ago.
Shouldn’t the father in you come out first instead of being his best freind at this time? You need to save your kid. Confront him about. Get professional help for him because you cannot stop the drug abuse on your own. Don’t fall for that “it’s not mine” crap either. It wouldn’t be hiding in his room if it wasnt. Get help for your son. If this is something you have a hard time coping with there are support groups for parents too.
I wish you both the best of luck. It will be a roller coaster ride from this point on, but you have to reach out to your son.
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Written by life*in*the*fast* lane about 2 years ago.
how uncool will you be if you overlook this and he ends up in prison or even dead?
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Written by next_top_celeb about 2 years ago.
confront him. ask him why he has it.
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Written by thedarkkatana about 2 years ago.
First ask him how much money has he made ? Or how much has he spend… Then once you are in, start the serious conversation and tell him that all the responsability falls on you if he gets caught. Ask him if he wants to see his dad in jail because of him ?
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Written by AV about 2 years ago.
If this is true, then be a parent and confront him. Being uncool has nothing to do with being a parent.
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Written by lumpy about 2 years ago.
I’m glad you’ve come to Yahoo for advice. The first thing you want to do is wrap the coke up very carefully. When you are finished with that i’ll give you my home address
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Written by Timothy L about 2 years ago.
If you wanna be cool, bust out a bunch of lines and wait for him to come home and snort the bag in one session, and try to get a heart attack and die, that would teach him a lesson and you wouldn’t be uncool.
Come on man, are you a father, or a friend? Be a dad, do fatherly stuff, give fatherly advice. Bust him, you are HIS DAD! Do not flush it yet though, because he might be selling it and owe a drug dealer a bunch of money, so get the whole story and do not put his life in jeopardy because of disciplining him, think about it DAD. Be a good dad.
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Written by Scrappy52 about 2 years ago.
Call the cops. If you love your kids, you have to be the one that acts like the grownup. The cocaine will ruin his life and cause him and you more pain than the cops ever could. help the cops find the one who handed the stuff to your kid.
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Written by chinamigarden about 2 years ago.
This can’t be a real question. There just can’t be people out there who could actually ask this. Uncool Dad? Who cares if you are uncool. Lets face it, if you are a Dad, you are by definition uncool. Sure you might be less uncool then others, but you aren’t going to get any extra cool points when you turn a blind eye to a felony that your son is commiting in your house. How cool will you be when in a few years you are either visiting him in prison, or at the cemetary. Get a grip and shake some sense into that boy.
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Written by oleowl_2000 about 2 years ago.
OUCH. Is the kid dealing? OUCH again. Don’t even know what to say. You’ve really got my sympathy. ut that stuff about uncool – I hope you’e just too far in shock right now. He’s 15 so you’re responsible. Do you want to go to jail? Wow how cool will that be.
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Written by JP about 2 years ago.
Cocaine is an addictive drug that doesn’t care whether or not you are cool. You need to confront your son regarding the matter and maybe seek some drug counseling for your son. Remember, be firm and supportive and son will respect you.
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Written by Angelica Z about 2 years ago.
Confront him talk to him ask him if he has any problems talk to him like the dad not like the friend i have a 15 year old as well and sometimes you just need to show them that you are the one that rules in the house !!!!!!!!!!!
good luck
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Written by gklb about 2 years ago.
When my son was young I found a pipe and drugs in his room. My husband convinced me not to say anything. Worse mistake of my life. Looking back on it now, I not only would have confronted him, I probably would have turned him in. I know that sounds harsh but the ensuing drug problems and personal problems that he faced might have been eliminated. I think children need to feel the boundaries that parents set. He may subconsciously be needing you to set some boundaries and show him that you care enough to put your foot down. From experience I can say that the worse thing you can do is nothing. He needs you to step up and be Dad!
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Written by hemi about 2 years ago.
Do you really need to ask that question on here? Either you have a druggie or a dealer for a son….Your options are:
1. Do nothing and let him ruin his life, or worse the lives of others.
2. Flush the drugs down the drain and get him into rehab of some sort and contact everyone of this boys friends parents and let them know what happened so they can verify thier kids are clean.
3. Call the police and let them deal with it. -
Written by cuzitsneeded about 2 years ago.
i’d call the cops.
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Written by exoticnat2002 about 2 years ago.
FORGET! being an uncool dad you need get your son straight that it is not right and it’s illegal to have and do
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Written by nicole about 2 years ago.
How cool are you gonna look in that orange jumpsuit you’re gonna be wearing when your son slips up and the cops end up at YOUR house. Cocain is under your roof = your cocaine. Just talk to him instead of killing him and get rid of the drugs (he will still think you’re cool for not killing him, right?)
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Written by whatsnext_13 about 2 years ago.
If it was more than a personal use thing , he may be dealing. That’s big money, and big time if he gets caught. If anyone else knows it’s in the house the rest of the family could end up in danger. There’s also the fact that it’s in your house, you could be brought up on charges if it is found by the police. You also need to consider who he may owe money to for the stuff. You don’t want them to come looking for money or deciding to steal your stuff to make some money back. Hope it helps.
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Written by hello about 2 years ago.
Tell the police.
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Written by kb9kbu about 2 years ago.
Start out pretending you don’t know about it, however, take it and say you were offered this stuff and ask him if he knows anything about the stuff. If he says he doesn’t know about that stuff, then say “Good, I’ll just flush this stuff,then”. If he asks where you got it, you ask him where he got it. Oh, don’t forget *flush*. Tell him as long as he’s living under your roof, no drugs!
Try to make him understand what that stuff can do to a person. -
Written by Katie M about 2 years ago.
Confront your son A.S.A.P.
because if your found your son dead tomorrow you wouldn’t think you were the coolest dad. Please keep your son safe and confront him A.S.A.P. -
Written by MOMof6 about 2 years ago.
kick his azzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
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Written by Keith B about 2 years ago.
Think about it… what is more important to you? Which is better: seeming cool to your son now and him hating you all his life for it or handing him over to the police, or punishing him yourself. You don’t want to get in trouble with the law for being an accessory. If you don’t want to hand him over to the police, make sure he will never try to do it again. If he’s 15 and he’s on drugs, what when he’s 18? 21? If you don’t stop this now, he’ll get worse. If he doesn’t think it’s fair on him, then tell him he brought this on himself.
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Written by sempurvivum about 2 years ago.
Your job is not to be cool, it is to be a dad and PROTECT YOUR SON from danger.
I’d call the police immediately and have them confront him when he gets home. He needs to know NOW how serious this is, with serious consequences.
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Written by Kelsey about 2 years ago.
Your job is to be a dad, not a friend. Cocaine is a serious thing. It’s highly addictive, it ruins lives.. I speak from personal experience. I have lost several friends to cocain and crack, and seen many more destroy their families and their lives. Try to remain calm and just kind of ask him what’s going on. Tell him that he has two options… deal with you or with the authorities. That may get him to open up and tell you what’s going on. See if he’s the one using it, or if he’s selling it or what. If he’s using, try to get him into some sort of rehab facility before it gets any worse.
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