Say something like, “Mother, as you know, quite a number of family members have had alcohol problems with some even losing their lives to it. We don’t want that for our family. History has shown that my husband has a difficult time controlling his alcohol because when he drinks, he keeps drinking more and more as time goes on. That is a sign of alcoholism that runs in this family. I love you and I love him, and I need you to help me help him. No matter what you believe, I want you to put that aside and not encourage or give him any alcohol because that is what is best for him. We already have seen too many deaths in this family due to alcohol and don’t want anymore. He made this decision and I am very happy. I asking you to support him in his decision. ”

I would have trouble understanding what she did too. It’s like she was trying to prove he didn’t have a problem to herself. It’s a twisted way to act if you ask me. Her husband is a functioning alcoholic and she might be one of these people that must make everyone think her life is perfect and without problems. Maybe she is jealous because her son is doing something about his alcoholism while she has to live with her alcoholic husband and has no hope of him ever changing. You know misery likes company sometimes. There can be jealousy amongst close family members like this sometimes. If she would ever offer him a drink in front of me after I talked to her about it, then I would just really lay into her and ask her what the hell does she think she is doing. I think being around his parents is really detrimental to his abstinence. I would avoid them as much as possible and if he does go, be with him so he doesn’t give in just in case his nutty mother tries to get him drunk. She should be ashamed of herself.