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Written by motorcitysmadman about 2 years ago.
Thats old enough to drink. In Canada they drink at 19. Just make sure he doesn’t drive drunk.
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Written by LadyRebecca about 2 years ago.
Send him to Australia – we start at 18, he’d be a veteran by now
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Written by roberta s about 2 years ago.
I would tell him the rules of the family and your house and if he does not want to abide by them, he would need to find another place to live. At 19, he’s an adult in my mind.
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Written by stinkypinky about 2 years ago.
young men love booze, this is perfectly natural. don’t worry
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Written by Engman about 2 years ago.
take him to rehab and tell them to send him the bill. he’s old enough to pay it.
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Written by Gu3rA about 2 years ago.
If he was drinking by himself then there might be a problem..maybe sit down and talk to him, send him to see somebody..there’s not much you can do since he’s an adult now..threaten him..that always works when my mom does it..I don’t that’s a tuffy..good luck!
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Written by dolly about 2 years ago.
I’ve always thought that if you are old enough to die for your country, you’re old enough to drink. Just be thankful he is safe at home and not driving around putting others lives at risk. If it was my son I would evaluate the situation to make sure he did not have an alcoholism problem, talk with him, and go from there. If it still doesn’t sit right with you, help him to become financially independent and find his own home, he’s more than old enough for it.
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Written by Tones about 2 years ago.
don’t worry about it. I drank plenty of times when I was 16-20. I came out all right. I’m sure he’ll be ok too. He may even be taking drugs from time to time. Don’t be alarmed. Just be a good parent by giving him space. It’s natural for him to be a little rebellious. Try and talk to him but do more listening than talking. That will be the only way you can get into his mind. He has to feel he can trust you. If he confides to you and you tell your entire office, he’ll feel like you are a backstabber. That’s why teens are often more close to their friends than their parents. If I were your son and knew you were on yahoo answers asking for advice, I would want to avoid telling you any details of what I do because you would not come off as discreet.
Good luck and be easy on him. He loves you in his own way but at his age, where he is maturing, he needs lots of space.
Just think about how you were when you were 19.
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Written by Nocine about 2 years ago.
Please tell him how important that is that he not drink until 21 as it is illegal & he could cause probs for you guys too. Ask him if he’d like you guys to get into trouble? Play that way a little, if he doesn’t care that he gets in trouble, ask him if he’d care that it makes you look bad, too. Say you love him very much & wish he would wait & maybe ask him if he’d think together with you for a different vice he could have… Best Wishes & {hug}.
I wouldn’t kick him out over something that’s obviously very hard for young people these days to grapple with. I understand the arguement that if you are old enuf to fight & die for your country, why can’t you chill out w/a beer as long as you are not drinking to get drunk & wild. hmmmm? Brings up a new Q: why is the legal drinking age 21?
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Written by renegade6988 about 2 years ago.
The drinking age in America is really ridiculous. If you are old enough to serve in the armed forces, drive, and vote, you are old enough to drink. It is illegal, but your son is an adult and is responsible for his own life. Let him be responsible for your own decisions. If you don’t like it, you have every right to kick him out.
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Written by HotMilf about 2 years ago.
First of all do you drink? if you do you really can not tell him not to b/c then that would make you a hipocrite. teenagers will do what they want as long as your not around and you can’t be around him 24/7. maybe you could try explaining him the consequences of drinking and advise him not to drive while drinking. You have every right to kick him out of your house if you disaprove of what he has done. other than that i’m stumped. Hope it helped.
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Written by ivory_k_2004 about 2 years ago.
Tough Love. My parents always said that if your going to live under our roof, you follow our rules. Makes wonderful sense. If he thinks he is old enough to make his own rules, tell him to pay his own rent. there is no greater way to teach a teenager responsibility. If he doesnt want to pay rent then he has to follow your rules, or find his own place to live.
Also if he is drinking in his room alone, I would also be concerned about that. Maybe look into any local addiction agencies for info.
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Written by Jillian about 2 years ago.
Don’t blow it out of proportion. Personally, wouldn’t you rather have him drinking at home vs. out with his friends, or god forbid behind the wheel of a car? 19 year old boys drink – that is just a fact of life.
If what you are saying is that you think your son has a problem – then that is a different story. You need to intervene and get him help and make sure he get the help he needs before it escalates into something that is out of control.
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Written by megkenzee about 2 years ago.
First you should be thankful that he is at home drinking. At least he isn’t out with his friends getting into bad situations. And he isn’t anywhere that he’d have to drive or leave with someone who has been drinking and driving. I first got drunk at 14, now that’s more of something to be worried about. My dad always said that he would rather have me do it at home instead of out risking getting caught or introuble, God rest his soul. If you really don’t like it then talk to him. But if he still wants to do it and you say he can’t do it there he will go off and do it somewhere more dangerous.
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Written by ShanaJ about 2 years ago.
Perfectly normal for that age. Honestly, wouldn’t you rather him drink at home where he is safe then drink in public and drive etc. He is going to drink no matter what you do, he is at that age and honestly, it is not a big deal. He is an adult at this point.
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Written by vn40 about 2 years ago.
first of all, do you drink ? and do you drink at home when you are alone and has he watched you doing that while growing up ? Kids learn more by observing than by being instructed. If yes then the change should come from you first, and if not, then he definately needs professional counselling. drinking alone in his room is a very bad sign and he has to be educated about where it could lead to.
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Written by Kristen from kristensguide.com about 2 years ago.
I would consider having a doctor talk to him about the reason why alcohol is illegal until 21. His brain is still developing, and alcohol can alter the way his brain develops, even at 19.
If you have any alcoholism in the family, drinking alone should be a huge warning sign. At that age, drinking is primarily a social activity or a way to cope with stress and depression. Using alcohol to cope with stress and depression is unacceptable at any age. Again, have the doctor talk to him about how excess alcohol affects the body.
I would even try to talk to a college biology professor about getting access to liver specimens. “Here’s a healthy liver. Here’s the liver of somebody who drinks too much.”
True, he’s a legal adult, so you don’t exactly have the ability to punish him.
You can talk to him about how you feel about it. Don’t insult him. Don’t try to shame him. Don’t get angry or dominating. Just tell him how it makes you feel and that you worry about him.
Keep alcohol out of your house and set an example as well.
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Written by Nannie3 about 2 years ago.
Since it is illegal at his age, I would not allow it in my home. Without being too hard on him, I would explain how you feel about him drinking in your home (showing a lack of respect) and drinking at all at his age. And I would consider other issues, whether he has had other problems, is still in high school, driving, in college, or working, etc. I would make sure he understands how drinking could affect each of these.
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Written by crazyme about 2 years ago.
at 19 he is an adult but living in your home so if you have rules against it then tell him no way and if he isnt on his way or already an alcoholic it shouldnt be a problem for him to abide by your wishes however if he does have a drinking problem then show him tough love now its the only way to teach him,,, kick him out and dont help him with money or anything else its hard i know but that is the only way someone with a drinking problem will start to see what he is doing,,,
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Written by takewhatyoucan about 2 years ago.
er, hes 19…
if your not comfortable with it tell him not to drink at home
but really, my parents let my 16yr old brother drink at home (in moderation) because its safer and its not a big deal. as long as hes not getting ridiculously drunk then it shouldnt be a problem
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