That is a situation where the child would likely benefit from therapy. He’s dealing with a lot and needs help to learn how to deal with it effectively. In cases like this that help best comes from someone who is experienced in treating these kinds of problems. They will help teach you how to effectively deal with problems that could arise with him, such as lying, and they will help him learn to deal with some of the feelings he has about his parents and some of his behaviors. Alot of times adoptive or foster parents (even family members with custody rights) can get help with financing for this and can in many cases get it paid for completely.

His defenses are up and he is scared. He has had a lot in his little life. You are a great person for doing this . counseling may be the answer for now, so you might what to look into it.