I am a single mom of the sweetest little boy in the whole world. Yesterday at bed time, he began to get very upset. He is not a child to be upset easily and is one of the most laid back kids in the world. He told me he could not tell me what happened. He said he knew I would be disappointed in him. Well I coxed him and promised him I would not get upset. He finally admitted to me that a little girl that lives in our apartments exposed herself to him. Up until this moment I felt like he was to young to know about the differences between boys and girls. And he had not really asked me any questions. I previously caught this same little girl trying to get my son to touch her private parts with a pop up toy. I talked to my son, and then I spoke to my sister who has kids and works for child welfare. She said it could be chalked up to either someone touching this kid or just natural childhood curiosity. My son is restricted to playing with her only once a week, and they are not allowed to be alone in any house together. This last incident happened outside.
My son told me that a four yr. old instructed the 6 yr. old girl and my son to show their privates. He says that the little girl did it, but that he did not. Now, I absolutely believe my son. But, it may have happened a little differently. Perhaps my son even showed his and is to worried to tell me.
I told him naked bodies were natural and that boys and girls are different. That girls have vaginas and boys have penises. I told him that no one should see his private parts. Not unless he needed me to check it or a doctor. Otherwise, nobody. And I told him that it was not appropriate to look at other peoples private parts. I said I understood his curiosity, but that our bodies are private. I said if he had any questions at all, then he could ask me anything. These kids constantly knock on my door looking for my son. No matter how many times I say he cannot play it happens over and over again.
I am going to report that I suspect the little girl is being sexually molested or has been. I know she is neglected, because I see her let outside to play for hours on end, even past dark all by herself. No adults checking on her at all.
She has shown other strange behavior, that I do not see expressed by my niece who is the same age or any of the kids in my sons class.
I have issues with my ex and I have out right refused to allow him access to my son. He is a horrible example and horrible father. An alcoholic and a sociopath. SO, I am afraid that the mother of the little girl will make accusations against me, or my family when I make the report. But, I feel like I have no other choice. SHe is a sweet little girl and she doesn’t deserve the life she is living. But, really what child does. There are also several other huge issues. (The mother, Grandmother, and Grandfather of the little girl are all chain smokers. The light up in a closed in one bedroom with the little girl in the house.) Every time she is in my house she reeks of smoke. I do not allow my child inside of anyones house at all. If you were me, what would you do? I can go on for hours but, I know you guys will get tired of reading. I really need some good advice. Please help.
Hey I just read some of the response, it seems like one person didn’t read the whole thing. The girl is for sure neglected. I met her as she just turned five and she has showed odd behaviors, and been left outside for hours, no one checking on her, except me. When I moved in here. The first couple of weeks she would be in the house with my then 5 year old son. Playing in the living room or running aroud. For hours. No parent ever came to meet me or even see where she was. EVER. Two weeks went by and I began to suspect that there was no parent. So I went to the apartment with her.
Her adopted grandmother watches her why the mother is at work. No one, ever checks on her to this day. I live in Las Vegas. I check on my little boy every 10 minutes and he is not allowed to play out of my range of vision.
I really hope I am being paranoid. But, I don’t think so…
You know what I read answers from people and was horrified. Oh yes, it is totally inappropriate to think that it is normal for a little girl of 5 years old to ask a little boy to bounce a toy off of her Vagina repeatedly. It is also inappropriate after the little girl has been told not to show her private parts, for her to take off her pants outside at the request of a four year old. This little girl is not stupid. How do I know their neglecting her? Obviously you didn’t read when I said the first 2 weeks I lived here she was in my house for days on end. No one came to check on her. 3 or 4 or even more hours. They did not know me, or anything about me.
People like this are why so many f’in people get away with being abusers. The reason I am scared about her family becoming upset with me, is because I just don’t want to stir up any trouble. The father of my son is an alcoholic and a sociopath he drinks and drives with his current girlfriends 2 yr. old in the car, no car seat.