Ok, I need to say this beginning. My husband & I divorced a lil over 4 years ago. He has been through so much. He is going to b 9 in September. Here is the problem. My children have seen their father abuse myself, his new wife, and other people. My ex is into drugs, guns, knives, etc. I do the best that I can to keep stuff put up- Knives are on top of the frig, NO GUNS OR DRUGS OR ALCOHOL in my house. My son was suspended last Wednesday for 2 1/2 days because he took a letter opener to school. I have found my kitchen knives in his room, under my couch, tucked into the furniture etc. I dont know what to do. I have tried grounding, spanking, everything. I dont know what to do. I am so scared that he is going to hurt himself or others. He has been seeing a counselor. He has been on medication since he was 5. (ADHD). Does anyone have any advice. He is fixing to spend 6 weeks with his father. I am terrified.
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Written by smein about 1 year ago.
I would not allow him to see his father… I know that this might sound harsh but if you know that he is abusing drugs and alcohol and physically abusive it is in your sons best interest not to be put in that type of situation. Also, he might have some sort of irrational fear and feels as though he needs to protect himself. I think having him continue seeing a counselor is best. Also, just reaffirming what is expected from you and what is not allowed at your home and at school.
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Written by Mer about 1 year ago.
Try to get full custody of your kid so he won’t be influenced by that stuff anymore and explain to him why knives and stuff are dangerous, try to get him into other things, try getting someone else he looks up to like he looks up to his dad to do things with him that aren’t bad or dangerous like building models of cars or airplanes or whatever. Good luck, he will probably be fine (I was LOL!)
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Written by Samantha about 1 year ago.
your son is old enough for you to talk to. Ask him why he does it, get on his level. Explain to him that it is not good to play with bad things, such as you described. Let him know why it is not good, like someone can get hurt. make sure you are spending quality time with him, he may feel neglected and just needs some fun quality time with his mom. The more interest you show in him doing well, he will continue to do well. While he is at his dad’s call him every day and talk to him, you can be involved even if it is just over the phone. When he does do something that he shouldn’t then take away privileges and always explain that he shouldn’t do what he did and why he shouldn’t. He will get it. Always give praise for him doing well. Whether it is doing his homework, doing a chore, or anything else.
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Written by rkrchk90 about 1 year ago.
if you make him believe that his actions are stupid by means of ignorance and not indulging in the hype that he produces in situations, then he can live a happy life. show him the bigger picture.
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Written by No Bull! about 1 year ago.
well, you need professional help. i’m not saying it in a mean way, but he is out of control and going through some things that you don’t understand. if his father is violent, you should not be sending him there to stay.
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Written by boystownhotline about 1 year ago.
Yes, this is very upsetting to hear what you are dealing with. Make sure you have a plan. Talk to your ex husband about your observations and concerns. Talk to the counselor. They can also talk to you and your ex husband together and come up with a plan that everyone will be comfortable with. Even though your husband has been the abuser….another adult involved will help.
It may help to talk to one of our counselors. The Boys Town National Hotline 1-800-448-3000 is available 24/7 and we talk to kids/teens and parents all the time about various issues. We want to help and support you. It may also be time to think of your options: In-Home services, Out of home placement, etc. Give us a call when you get the chance…thanks for reaching out for you and your son–take care, Counselor KJ -
Written by lavender about 1 year ago.
have you tried talking to your son ,is he afraid of something and how does he feel about spending 6 weeks with his dad. this is serious you need to find out why hes got fixated over knives, is his diagnosis right could he have aspergers .i would talk to your gp
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Written by texas! about 1 year ago.
keep spanking him. It WILL work, just be consistent.
ADHD is a piss-poor excuse for bad behavior.
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