My husband has not been with his ex since the beginning of 2007. They are somewhat cordial as they were good friends before they dated. To make a long story short she really screwed him over. She cheated on him with 3 other men, wrote bad checks on their joint account then took her name off leaving my husband with the debt, stole his car and had sex with another man in it on his birthday while he was at work and didn’t bring it back for 2 days leaving him stranded, and she also has a crack cocaine problem. When she got pregnant with her son she told my husband and 3 other guys that the child was theirs. DNA tests proved the child is not my husbands. Keep in mind all of this happened before my husband and I meet back in the summer of 2008 at which point his ex had her baby. Anyway, she recently contacted him when she found out I had a baby and now she wants to meet up with us so that our boys can play together. My husband is a great guy and he still cares for her as a human being and I respect that but he is seriously considering setting up this play date between our kids. I don’t have an issue with my husband meeting up with her for lunch or something (I trust him and I know he has no feelings for her nor does she have any feelings for him, it’s more like a big brother little sister relationship they have now) but I don’t know how I feel about my kid being around her. I have nothing against her kid but it is her I do not trust manly becuase of her drug problem. She says she is clean but people we all know says that her mother has filed for custody of her son due to her continued use of drugs. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be rude but at the same time I don’t want my son around someone who is on hardcore drugs. Any thoughts, opinions, advice would be greatly appreciated.
I never thought of how this could lead to the two of us sizing each other up but I think you guys are all right as far as that matter is concerned. I just feel really bad for her son becuase he has hardly any friends due to the fact that none of her friends want to have play dates with their kids either. But at the same time I need to do what is best for my kid.