My husband sisters 21 year old son committed suicide. And I know it has to be so rough on her but Not real sure how to help. We have never been close. And I refuse to be like so many to tell her I know what she is going through. It feels so cruel. When I have my son he just turned 28 and is a wild man. Always has been. He son was one of the good guys. He was a high school graduate and not into drinking, drugs or any of that kind of stuff my son has done it all. The alcoholic, his 1st son when he was only 16. And has done the street drugs. But I hear so many people telling her they know what she is going through When they don’t because I feel until you have had to bury a child for any reason or lost a child to death you Can’t possialby know what they are going through. He son watched his father at 8 years old die at his feet.His father was a diabetic and had a kidney transplant. And only lived 2 years then died from a blood clot. This youg boy was standing beside of his daddy in the kitchen when he fell to his death. Our nephew was a brillte diabetic, At 16 he had open heart surgery. His heart had NO back in it they repaired it and done a bunch of other stuff to it. He found out 3 months ago his pancreas had quit, his kidneys were failing and they wanted to put him on a heart transplant list. He told his mother he was just tired of all his health problems and he gave up. He committed suicide and they buried him on his 22 B day.Here I am with a 28 year old son. Who know more cares about his family or his health. He goes through 2 cases of beer a week. Neglects his children. And only comes to see my husband and I when he wants a free babysitter, or money. But yet her son was acomputer wizard, had made it through high school, had tried college before his health got worse. And was a great kid. But I don’t know how to be there for her. When We have our son and our 3 grandchildren. And she lost hers.We have never been close in about 10 years anyway. She lives 90 mile away.