My cousin is 20 and his fiancé is 19, she’s been living with my Aunt and Uncle for the last 5 years and has always started problems. I don’t know if she thrives off causing problems or what. But she constantly is talking crap about either family members or close family friends. I don’t have much family where I live, and being an only child, I have a close relationship with my cousins that I’ve grown up with. My younger cousin started dating this girl 5 years ago and she was very troubled when they met. A few years ago, we had a really big blow up, and I told my Aunt and Uncle that I could stand her shit talking anymore. That she’s constantly turning my friends and family around on me and that I thought she is a bad influence on their only daughter. They told me if I couldn’t accept her, that I didn’t need to hang around. So I just shut up didn’t say anything more about her and ended up moving out of state for 8 months. I moved back just over a year ago, and she had matured a lot. But I found out that the whole time I was gone, she was telling my younger cousins that they shouldn’t want anything to do with me because all I do is try and control them. I’ve come to look past a lot of things, and for a while we became pretty close, too close. It got to the point where my Aunt asked me to sneak her out of the house to go shopping. I had to sneak her out, because my cousin’s fiancé, at the age of 19, can’t go to the store without asking my Aunt for stuff. She found out that we went to the store and when we got back, her and my cousin refused to talk or look at me; because I lied about where I was going (which my Aunt asked me to do.) Afterward, I let it be known to them, that I don’t have any obligations to clear what I want to do with them. Eventually it all blew over and we started getting close again. Until we were driving out to a family function, and she started talking to me about my other cousin’s GF. She started telling me all these rumors about his GF, the entire way to the family function. And as soon as we got there, she immediately blew me off for subject of the rumors. Then, the other night, my Aunt and Uncle’s son, who is an alcoholic, had a bad drinking episode. He started crying about how my cousin’s fiancé told him that my Uncle hates that his oldest son lives there and that my Uncle can‘t stand my cousin, which my Uncle would never say about anyone. The next day is when I found out what had happened, I asked my cousin’s fiancé about what she had said to my oldest cousin. And all she could say is, “Why does anyone believe me?” I feel like she is destroying my family. Like as if she doesn’t care, because we’re not really her family. Yet if I say anything, I am going to be considered the problem. I really don’t feel close to my cousins anymore, and it’s depressing, because I feel like I don’t have any cousins to rely on for support. I’m afraid that I am going to completely cut off contact with all of them.