My divorce was final yesterday and I’ve been dating someone… He’s every thing I want in a man and treats me with respect unlike my abusive and alcoholic ex. My son (not of the marriage) is five and absolutely loves him and wants us to get married…should I spend more time alone and casually date for a while before committing to a relationship? I really could settle down with this guy but am afraid of getting into another relationship without making sure I am healthy first. HELP!
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Written by Nana about 1 year ago.
here’s my advice–it’s never too late…your husband obviousily wasn’t right for you so go ahead!! you need to get out there and on with your life!! knock em dead!!
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Written by bluetopaz20 about 1 year ago.
Sounds like you’ve answered your own questions. If you have any doubts, keep it casual. You have to heal and be the best you before you commit to anyone else. It’s hard being alone or not in a relationship when you are used to being in one, but it is so worth it. Discuss your fears with the new beau and if he supports your need to move slow, he may very well be what you need! Good luck.
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Written by artwin about 1 year ago.
You’re asking so you’re ready. DON’T RUSH IN TO ANYTHING if he’s the right one he will give you all the time you need and you’ll know when you’re ready and he will too.
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Written by joeyp_p about 1 year ago.
after divorce life goes on, if it’s ok with YOU, then go for it. Remember this, no one can feel what you feel, sense what you sense or judge your position because they haven’t been in your shoes. Live your life as you like it and above all, enjoy it.
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Written by geoffy_g about 1 year ago.
The new date sounds healthy. I’d suggest you talk to him in-depth about your concerns. There IS a concern about rebounding – especially out of an abusive relationship. Though I don’t know you, I’d suggest if may indeed be too early to make a commitment, but if you both work, maybe it will work. HOWEVER, do NOT keep the relationship just to make your son happy – U need to be happy.
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Written by mnmechtech51 about 1 year ago.
jlomedic2181, As I found out the hard way, there is no rules about dating after divorce. I was divorced in early Nov. 05 after 30+ yrs. and still can’t date. However she is remarried already. If your serious about this guy, and if he is serious about you, then he will or should understand if you need some time to get healthy or make sure your healthy and/or to make sure your ready for this commitment. And as for the little guy, he just wants a dad, as well as needs one. And a good one. Me on the other hand, I’m still to screwed up and depressed. I’m in the process of getting professional help. So make sure it’s right for you. And if your ready, go for it. Life is to short to go it alone. Good luck
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Written by Bree about 1 year ago.
I believe there is nothing wrong with dating if you just got divorced but I do thing you should really give your self enough time to get to know this man, before you make a commitment with him. I’d say atleast a year or so! You don’t want to make the same mistake again so…take your time.
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