he should be grounded and his tv, computer, xbox etc privileges should be taken away.
well when i was 15 and caught drinking alcohol with my friends my mum stopped me having any money so i could not buy any more but this did not stop me my friends just gave me some money, so then my mum grounded me point blank if i was stuck at home then i was stuck at home and bored, then when i was no longer grounded my mum told me she was putting alot of trust in me and if i did it again i would face the consequence of my actions and sure enough i did it again and in the end it was actually the feeling of having let my mum down and disappointing her that made me behave, then she told me we could have a fresh start but i had to prove she could trust me i think now she put most of it on bout being hurt that i had let her down but it worked for me anyway
Make him drink until he throws up and has a terrible hangover the next day. It sounds terrible, but he won’t do it again!
Alcohol only? Are you sure he hasn’t hit the pipe as well or had sex? I’m willing to bet he’s done 1 of the other 2 as well.
The best thing to do is call ahead when he goes to a friend’s to make sure the parents will be home. An older sibling does not count!!
Take away his TV and computer, put them in an office/study. Make sure he comes straight home after school for about two weeks.
You might just let him watch TV in the evenings with the family and not earlier. Also, you might try take advantage of the free time in the afternoons when he’s not allowed out and about to spend some time with him, that way he won’t hate you as much.
My parents let me drink, in the house under their supervision. But when I did it behind their back, they grounded me and made me drink what ever it was I drank the time they caught me and made me puke it up. I never did it again. I don’t drink today either and I am 22. lol
Make him drink a bottle of vodka.
OMG please do NOT listen to the people telling you to make him drink a whole bottle.
1. you could go to jail
2. he could die (stomach pump) whatever
3. Just dont do it
my advice is to talk to him about the negetives of drinking alcohol, and explain that at his age there are no positives
And if you want to get him out of the house, make him attend AA meetings. Plus he would get to see first hand what alcohol really does to people
Make him write(handwrite) a 4 page essay on the effects of alcohol on the body. Make him do research and site his sources. Make him find stotries of how alcohol ruined someones life and write about that too. Teens are going to try it atleast once. So grounding them isnt going to work, they will do it agian. You need to let him know the danger eh places himself in
It is hard for me to answer that question because neither my husband nor I drink and so we never have alcohol in the house and when our boys (oldest turning 15 this week) go to a friends home, I know the parents pretty well and the parents are always home. I also have faith (not 100% of course I’m not naive) that my boys would make the right choice to say no thanks.
If they made the wrong choice I don’t think I would be focusing on punishment. I would probably be more focused on getting through to them why what they did was wrong. I would have them write a paper one page long at least explaining how the drinking came about, why they did it, and why it was a bad choice. I would make them add what the consequences to drinking at their age could be and how it can affect other people around them, as well as what they should have done instead.
I would also do some research and find some scary statistics to show them, whatever I could do to make them realize what a mistake underage or irresponsible drinking is. I don’t think a punishment like taking something away is going to make any difference in a situation like this, drinking at that age is a serious thing and should be taken more seriously. it cannot be punished the same way you can punish a child taking a cookie when they weren’t supposed to. Deeper parental intervention is needed in a case like this.
take away his cigarettes
i dont think you should punish him, its all part of growing up, i bet u drank atleast a couple of times when you were his age,
talk to him and discuss if he going to drink he needs to make sure you know hes in safe hands and is being responsible, its just life and he will learn his lessons allong the way
please dont punish him just hav a talk to him and make sure he is being safe ( he will repect you more)
When I was 15 I was not crazy enough to touch a bottle of alcohol because i knew my parents would kick my a** That’s what I think you should do. If you’re not one of those parents he should probably not be able to leave the house alone for a looooong time until he can be trusted again.
well, there are a few options.
1. (I have heard this works) force him to drink until he throws up and feels horrible. (people say this teaches them what it really feels like. But there is the risk of an overdoce and stuff)
2. Complete groundation. You know, no TV, computer, ipod, friends….. school home and bed.
3. Take him to visit people who have been messed up by drinking. Teach him what can happen from drinking.
If you suspect your child might be drinking or taking drugs, talk to your child’s school. Substance abuse almost always shows up in attendance, GPA, and truancy. “If kids are getting drunk, they’re not doing their work,” says Schaefer. What happens in school is not confidential, and teachers are required to record observable behaviors of their students. Schools have checklists for teachers that parents can ask to see. (One of these is called the “Student Assisted Programs Checklist,” but names may vary from state to state.) The list includes questions about truancy, the students’ attitudes and behaviors, and also alcohol and drug-related questions. “As a parent, you have the right to know what is being recorded about your child,” says Schaefer. While parents do not have a right to hear what kids tell school counselors or psychologists—except in the case of suicidal or homicidal behaviors or vandalism—parents do have a right to see any checklist the school has on their child.
You need to have some communication with your child about drinking and substance abuse. “It should be just as easy to talk to them about drinking and marijuana as it is to talk about sex…and that’s the problem,” says Schaefer. “We think we’re so open but we’re not. Talk about the drinking scene, talk to your kids about your concerns. Keep the lines of communication open.”
The good news is that not all kids are drinking. About 60 percent of kids in the U.S. and Canada drink, but 40 percent do not. Arm yourself with that information before you talk to your child, who might be under the impression that all his friends are doing it. “That’s the important message that I try to get across,” says Schaefer. “In my classes I say, ‘You guys are among the 60 percent, you broke the law.’ And that’s good to tell kids. We’ve got to break this idea that ‘everybody drinks’ because it’s just not true.”
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