How do you react when your son’s new girlfriend, who knows you are an alcoholic, offers you a beer?

16/08/2010 admin 6 comments

I haven’t had a drink in 8 years, and it’s common knowledge that I’m an alcoholic. I wasn’t drinking and don’t cover up what I am. I think it can be a good lesson to others.

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Written by Kevin A about 2 years ago.

Offer to kick his nuts so hard that someday his unborn children will feel it.

Or, you could tell him that if he ever hurts your daughter, or offers you a beer again, you will hunt him down and do whatever it is overprotective parents do when they hunt down boyfriends.
Written by pheroslie about 2 years ago.

It’s so hard to answer your question because i think you yourself alone can answer that. Are you going to accept it or not. I won’t say no just cover-up your alcoholism to your son, but for sure you not yes because you know your situation. Better of talk to your son’s girlfriend and ask her nicely if she can at least respect you and your son for not asking thing that she knows not good for you. But don’t get mad at her because it’s no use.
Written by theartisttwin about 2 years ago.

Does she know you are an alcoholic or a “recovering” alcoholic? If you have sat there and pounded ten beers, maybe she was thinking it would be rude to not offer another. Possibly she is immature and just trying to please you without truly knowing about alcoholism. In any case, is that really the issue? You can blame nobody but yourself if you choose to take the beer or not.
Written by melib1987 about 2 years ago.

Maybe she didnt mean any harm…maybe she thought it was a nice gesture?

or it could be a test-i really dont know your situation!
Are you an alcoholic-one that drinks on a regular basis or are you going through a recovery?

is she a drinker?

Most often when someone overs you a drink they dont mean any harm by it….i used to not be a drinker and i would feel weird when someone offered me a drink

now i understand that when an alcoholic (or just a drinker) offers you a drink its because they want you to enjoy what they are enjoying! They dont mean any harm…

and if she knows that you are in recovery, etc. then you should talk to her and explain how you feel…ppl arent always sure how other ppl feel about something….and it could be that she really wants you to like her!

i hope that helps
Written by PsyMom about 2 years ago.

I think there are a few ways to handle it, depending on the specifics:

The first one is to assume it was an accident. Perhaps she’s forgotten it’s an issue for you. If she’s a new girlfriend, she might not have absorbed the information yet. Also, are you sure she knows? Assume she’s not doing this to insult you or goad you-it was just slippage of the mind.

The second is to assume she’s somewhat ignorant about alcoholism. Maybe she thinks beer doesn’t count, or that you can stop at one-remember not everyone gets what addiction means.

Were you alone with her, with other people who know you are an alcoholic, or around strangers? Was she offering everyone a beer or drink? perhaps she didn’t want to single you out or appear rude in front of strangers by declining to offer it to you.

Just tell her that you really do need to avoid all alcohol, and it would may you feel more comfortable if she would not offer you any-ever. You can pick the time and place for this chat. it doesn’t have to be in front of everyone.

There is always of course the possiblity that she was in fact baiting you intentionally. In this case, avoid her as much as you can. you can try to talk to her or get your son to do it. In this situation, I suggest that you assume the meaness is a result of a distinct lack of gray matter between the ears and seek out evidence to support this. It’ll distract you from the liquor and may turn the situation amusing for you.
Written by Mona Lisa about 2 years ago.

Well, I haven’t had a drink in years, either, but I don’t really care if I’m asked if I want a beer. People don’t mean anything by it. Usually, even if they know my history, they aren’t focused on it.

So, my reaction is: “No thanks.”

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