Comments on: How do you help a loved one with alcohol issues?My son spent 18 months in Korea in the army, now has problems! http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/ We will help your son fight his addcitions! Sun, 09 Oct 2011 16:09:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Shan http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-1373 Shan Sat, 31 Jul 2010 03:37:47 +0000 http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/#comment-1373 Prayers are the easy part. Contact Militaryonesource.com and they will be able to help you help him. You can always contact me directly also. I have several other suggestions, but will not go into them in a public forum. Prayers are the easy part. Contact Militaryonesource.com and they will be able to help you help him. You can always contact me directly also. I have several other suggestions, but will not go into them in a public forum.

]]> By: desertviking_00 http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-1372 desertviking_00 Sat, 31 Jul 2010 03:05:57 +0000 http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/#comment-1372 He's not drinking because he was or is in Korea. He's drinking because he's a drunk. Your "buying into" the "Korea made me drink" fable is allowing him to do what drunks do: manipulate the truth and the circumstances about their drinking. He needs to get sober and get help in that order. He can either do that with the help of some organization or on his own. I did it on my own after consuming (what my shipmates said) was 40+ martinis one night at a club and going into an alcoholic coma. That was May 22, 1964. Haven't had a drink since. He’s not drinking because he was or is in Korea. He’s drinking because he’s a drunk. Your “buying into” the “Korea made me drink” fable is allowing him to do what drunks do: manipulate the truth and the circumstances about their drinking.
He needs to get sober and get help in that order. He can either do that with the help of some organization or on his own. I did it on my own after consuming (what my shipmates said) was 40+ martinis one night at a club and going into an alcoholic coma. That was May 22, 1964. Haven’t had a drink since.

]]> By: Y!A staff/censorship suck http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-1371 Y!A staff/censorship suck Sat, 31 Jul 2010 02:52:56 +0000 http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/#comment-1371 i am not in the military, but i am a student here in korea. not only do the soldiers drink a lot, but the koreans do too (with exception to the really religious christian ones) every day as a matter of fact (as opposed to just the weekends for the american students). But from what i hear, american soldiers are doing worse things than drinking, like frequenting whores on "Hooker hill" and raping women there. Now, obviously NOT ALL soldiers do this, but it happens enough to give our military an infamous reputation... i am not in the military, but i am a student here in korea. not only do the soldiers drink a lot, but the koreans do too (with exception to the really religious christian ones) every day as a matter of fact (as opposed to just the weekends for the american students).

But from what i hear, american soldiers are doing worse things than drinking, like frequenting whores on “Hooker hill” and raping women there.

Now, obviously NOT ALL soldiers do this, but it happens enough to give our military an infamous reputation…

]]> By: gunplumber_462 http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-1370 gunplumber_462 Sat, 31 Jul 2010 02:24:41 +0000 http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/#comment-1370 You don't make it easy for him. Don't make excuses like "All the troops do in Korea is drink". Truth is, all the drunks do in Korea is drink. When I stopped drinking 9 months into my second tour I was amazed to discover that the vast majority of troops there drank rarely or not at all. And you can find an AA meeting just about every day of the week. In the end though it's his choice. You can't fix him. He has to recognize there's a problem and decide to do something about it himself. Sometimes it takes a while. http://www.aainkorea.org/4meetings/4MeetingsStartPage.html You don’t make it easy for him. Don’t make excuses like “All the troops do in Korea is drink”. Truth is, all the drunks do in Korea is drink. When I stopped drinking 9 months into my second tour I was amazed to discover that the vast majority of troops there drank rarely or not at all. And you can find an AA meeting just about every day of the week.

In the end though it’s his choice. You can’t fix him. He has to recognize there’s a problem and decide to do something about it himself. Sometimes it takes a while.

http://www.aainkorea.org/4meetings/4MeetingsStartPage.html

]]> By: novice http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-1369 novice Sat, 31 Jul 2010 01:51:22 +0000 http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/#comment-1369 The military does have AA meetings---so that's the one thing he can do----however, this will only work if he wants to get off the booze.....Tell your son to call AA--do not call any military facility to inquire about that--this way it will not be on record, and if he really is determined to get off the booze he can do so with a clean record. It won't be easy---he'll have to have a sponsor and he'll have to go to meetings off post as much as he can---but I did owrk in Fort Jackson,SC, I do know that AA meets on post, and I have seen quite a few soldiers getting off the booze and staying out of trouble......good luck The military does have AA meetings—so that’s the one thing he can do—-however, this will only work if he wants to get off the booze…..Tell your son to call AA–do not call any military facility to inquire about that–this way it will not be on record, and if he really is determined to get off the booze he can do so with a clean record. It won’t be easy—he’ll have to have a sponsor and he’ll have to go to meetings off post as much as he can—but I did owrk in Fort Jackson,SC, I do know that AA meets on post, and I have seen quite a few soldiers getting off the booze and staying out of trouble……good luck

]]> By: pezriffe http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-1368 pezriffe Sat, 31 Jul 2010 01:25:53 +0000 http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/#comment-1368 I totally understand your problem. My husband is over there and in the beginning he tried as hard as he could to stay away from all of that, but he got in trouble for being a "barracks rat" and was told to go out with the guys. Now he goes off drinking every weekend. Did his wife not know that he was drinking? She should have been talking to him about it the whole time he was there. Things like "I understand that this is your life now, but please work this down before time to come home" Talk to him, and tell him that you understand why he did it so much in Korea, that was the only thing to do, but now he's home and it's time to take care of his family. His wife should try to be patient with him, although it is asking a lot of her, but lets face it the military isn't a normal job and it changes you. Isn't it ironic though that the Army would kick him out but yet they motivate you to go out at night. Good Luck I totally understand your problem. My husband is over there and in the beginning he tried as hard as he could to stay away from all of that, but he got in trouble for being a “barracks rat” and was told to go out with the guys. Now he goes off drinking every weekend. Did his wife not know that he was drinking? She should have been talking to him about it the whole time he was there. Things like “I understand that this is your life now, but please work this down before time to come home”
Talk to him, and tell him that you understand why he did it so much in Korea, that was the only thing to do, but now he’s home and it’s time to take care of his family. His wife should try to be patient with him, although it is asking a lot of her, but lets face it the military isn’t a normal job and it changes you.
Isn’t it ironic though that the Army would kick him out but yet they motivate you to go out at night.
Good Luck

]]> By: Brycey G http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-1367 Brycey G Sat, 31 Jul 2010 00:53:08 +0000 http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/#comment-1367 Ok I understand you have a problem with your son drinking. You should send him to alcoholics anonymous or rehab if its really serious BUT All troops in Korea do not drink Ok? My friend was stationed in Korea and did she drink and become an alcoholic? NO. So please think before you make a statement about a whole group of people. Hey someone gave me a thumbs down that also can make an assumption about a whole group of people. Thats called Racism Ok I understand you have a problem with your son drinking. You should send him to alcoholics anonymous or rehab if its really serious

BUT

All troops in Korea do not drink Ok?
My friend was stationed in Korea and did she drink and become an alcoholic? NO. So please think before you make a statement about a whole group of people.

Hey someone gave me a thumbs down that also can make an assumption about a whole group of people.

Thats called Racism

]]> By: Frog http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-1366 Frog Sat, 31 Jul 2010 00:04:07 +0000 http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-you-help-a-loved-one-with-alcohol-issuesmy-son-spent-18-months-in-korea-in-the-army-now-has-problems/#comment-1366 Sorry to hear that.........Is he still in Korea? Suggest counseling. Since he is an adult it is really his choice to get help. You can't force him. Prayer does wonders too........ Sorry to hear that………Is he still in Korea?
Suggest counseling. Since he is an adult it is really his choice to get help. You can’t force him.
Prayer does wonders too……..

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