My son is 21 . He has anger problem that has to do with disfunctional family history. he does not want to be like his alcoholic father but acts up exactly like him when drunk. His father is away overseas indefinitely and I am the only one left to deal with the problem. I love my son very much and want to help him get therapy for he needs it badly. One nite he break up with his GF and had to move out, he got very upset and breaking things and punching his GF. My friend came to help me to deal with the situation and end up wrestling the mad son down. Police had to be called to resolve the situation. Now he called me and promise to kill me ,my friend and himself. I had him arrested and pushing the court to force him to get therapy. he co-operates but still very angry. Have I any hope to ever get my son realize I love him and want to help him for better life. Will he forgive me?
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Written by D T about 2 years ago.
Give him TOUGH LOVE
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Written by Flipper about 2 years ago.
You’re very brave, but your son has to take the critical steps of recognizing his problems and be willing to deal with them. He has to WANT to stop.
All you can do is love him unconditionally, be there when he needs you, and provide him the opportunities to heal.
I hope that once he does get help, he will realize how you tried to help him, and why, and not only forgive you, but love you for it.
I wish you all the best. -
Written by spideysense1978 about 2 years ago.
First of all I’m very sorry to hear the situation you are in. No one should go through stuff like that. You ARE doing the right thing though, and maybe not soon, but one day he will understand why you took certain steps. That is, if he really wants to be helped. If he doesnt have the motivation to see what he´doing to everyone, then it would be hard for anyone to help him. The first thing he should do is accept that he has a problem (cliche, but it is true).
But like i said, you are doing the right thing. If you let things just like they are, then he will never change and the situation could get worse. With your way there is hope for his recovery, and thus hope for a much better relationship with your son. Tough love is hard, but sometimes it´s the only way to save someone. I wish you all the best with your son, and i truly hope you can live in harmony again.
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Written by Carp about 2 years ago.
He’s an adult now. Be supportive and protect yourself. He is the only one that can make the choice to change. He is on his way to rock bottom. It takes hitting that bottom for some people to wake up and change.
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