How do I confront my son on an awkward situation?

28/08/2011 admin 6 comments

I came home from an exhausting day of work, which ended up being a 12 hour day (had to pick up the slack for a couple people who had been laid off, we’re all going through this economic struggle am i right?). I came home, got myself a beer from the fridge, and thought I could finally relax. I went to check on my wife who was asleep and decided to see what my boy Jeff was up to.
Heres where it gets awkward… I knocked on his door, and heard him kind of panic, and wanted to make sure he wasn’t doing anything he wasn’t supposed to, I’ve caught him drinking my beer before and I thought I noticed a couple missing from the fridge. Now I like to think I’m pretty liberal with my son in terms of not going overboard when I catch him with alcohol (he’s 14) and I want to make sure he keeps it in check. When I went in I saw him struggling to get his belt back on and he closed his laptop quickly. It was an awkward situation and I just appologized for barging in and thought I would leave it at that (no need to make a big deal out of it). While he was out with his friends the next day I decided to check the history on his laptop just to make sure what he was looking at was healthy. What I discovered was a very unnatural fettish. I don’t know if anyones heard of the site mybeasttube (definitely NSFW) but its pretty much a youtube of beastiality.
I am concerned about my son, and while I believe he has a right to live any lifestyle he wants this in my eyes is too much. Anyway I guess what I’m asking is that I am desperate for advice on how to approach him on this. Everytime I see him its been so awkward, and difficult to face him. How do I approach this? Should I tell my wife and risk embarrasing the boy or do I keep this between us men? Do I just let this go and hope this is just some weird phase?
I hope you all understand how difficult this is for me as a parent…

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Written by Grant about 9 months ago.

You shouldn’t say anything to him. You confronting him won’t make this go away. It’ll just make things more awkward.

You should just keep living your life. If it’s just a phase, it will pass. If it’s not, you will never know.

You don’t need to worry.
Written by Evan S about 9 months ago.

You looked, you got what you deserved. 14 is young and he may be going through some weird shit right now, but that said, if you mention this to him, IT WILL KILL HIM.

I don’t know why parents snoop into their kids lives, and when they don’t like what they see, they loose it. I say you have to hold it in, and it’s your own fault for looking in to it.
Written by Shannon about 9 months ago.

when i was a kid i did stupid stuff to it will be ok just talk to him lol
Written by creepycookie about 9 months ago.

let it go. don’t take him looking at this site once as a lifestyle choice or sick fetish, he is just finding his way in the world. call it more of a curiosity. he is young, he will find these things on the internet, and at 14 he will be wanking almost anytime he is left alone. don’t tell his mother, she will wish you hadn’t afterwards!
Written by kate about 9 months ago.

The problem is you do NOT know if it was just a voyeuristic thing or
If he is trying it for real .

As a voyeur , there is little health risk BUT ,
If he is trying it for real , that is a source of STDs .

Rather than have a parent do the follow up ,
This may be better handled by a discussion with the doctor .

Schedule him an appointment so he can talk to a professional third party who is NOT a parent .

good luck

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Written by Baby T about 9 months ago.

Evan is an idiot for saying he doesn’t know why parents look through their kids things,that’s apart of parenting and for him to say that i’m sure he’s either a child,a non-parent or an unconcerned father.Moving on, i don’t think that you should mention to him about the porn because it will upset him to know that you checked the history on his computer.You should talk to your wife about it though and think of how to talk to your son about it.You don’t want your son growing up having sex with animals.

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