Get him into a proper rehab clinic. The Christian rehab is just going to attempt one type of addiction (cocaine) with another (religion). God isn’t doing anything. Your husband is the one who chose to use cocaine. He is to blame for his addiction. You chose to be with this man. You are to blame for your own suffering. You and your husband chose to have a child, both of you are to blame for your child’s suffering.

God is not putting you through this, you are. You chose such a man to father your child, you chose to stay with him. You can only help him by leaving him and showing him bad people do not deserve a good wife and family.

You must have tons of money. keep your money tight. Hide it so that you can’t buy drugs.

If he has been in inpatient rehab for this long and is still using, then you need to evaluate the program, Christian or not. Addiction is a medical problem, and an outpatient program will not cut it for some addicts. He will need to make these decisions for himself. You have your hands full with a 2 year old so you don’t need to worry about another child. Instead of support, you need information. Attend some open meetings of Narcotics Anonymous and see how other addicts and their families succeed. Call your local hospital with an inpatient program and ask to meet with an intake person to discuss what is going on in your marriage. God is not putting you through anything. He is sitting there wondering if you are smart enough to be the wife of an addict. Addicts are a handful so get yourself prepared with information about addiction instead of fear and panic. Best of luck to you!!

dont give up, mydear! your husband really needs you at this time.. you must show him that it’s not too late for him to change, and you and your little son really loves him. just be patient, GOD knows everything, just dont blame him! evrything will gonna be okey.. trust GOD

GOOD LUCK

I don’t think that there really is ever a full “cure” for a drug addiction like that. The only way he can really overcome it, is if he’s honestly willing to help himself… but the addiction overpowers you emotionally & that’s all you can think about.
I was raised in a family of drug addicts. So I’ve seen what’s happened to those who hasn’t been willing to help themselves. It’s horrible. They eventually stop caring about their family & they’ll start caring for only themselves. You’ll find stuff missing, pawned… you’re life will be ruined…
Let him know that you’re there for him. & if changes don’t undergo within the next year, you’re going to have to leave him. Because if you don’t, things can seriously get worse for you & your baby…

I did my own little stint in “Christian rehab” (although they don’t like for you to call it that). You are not the only person to experience this. Let me tell you a couple of things that might help you: first, this will not be like “regular rehab”, more than likely, anyway. I would assume that the meetings will be more toned down, and that there will be a lot more praying going on than cussing. The people who work there, are there because they truly want to help. Most of them have probably been through the program. They probably don’t make much money, and they probably don’t have fancy degrees. They probably feel very blessed to be alive, and have made a vow to help as many people as they can. They probably open their eyes every single morning and thank God for the opportunity to look at the sky.

Rest assured those people are also there to help you. They know the importance of helping to put the whole family back together, not just the addict themselves. There will be plenty of times that you will have the opportunity to be there, and participate in family activities. However, your husband is definitely going to need to be THERE, and not have to concentrate on things at home. He has to be able to concentrate SOLELY on his recovery. He will literally have to learn how to live again, and that takes time, and prayerfully, a lot of patience on your part.

I’m so sorry you are having to go through this. It isn’t fair, to your or your son. And I don’t know why this is happening to you, anymore than I know why the things that led me into what I was into happened to me. Maybe everyone has to take a turn at heartache sometime in their life, just to appreciate joy. Your heartache comes from seeing your husband going through this, and for yourself for having to go through it alone. His comes from himself being away from home and going through what will probably be the hardest time of his life, and from watching you go through this alone, and knowing he caused it.

The most important thing I can tell is to trust in the Lord. I know that sounds so cliche`d, but it’s true. When things look the worst, literally get down on your knees, let the tears fall if they want to, and lay your heart out for Jesus. Not one other thing you could possibly think of could make you feel better. Read the Psalms, and they will lift you up. Pray a LOT. That may be all you have sometimes, but hold on to that. If you have nothing else, I learned, you have the power to pray. Please do not lose heart. I will pray for your family and for God to bless you. Take heart that He never, ever takes His eyes off you, sometimes He just does things that we don’t understand.

*Not to say you should stay if he doesn’t get better. Give him a chance to go through rehab and try to clean himself up. If he doesn’t try or doesn’t stick with it, leave him. Your child will grow up watching that…and I need not even say it. You will know, if you are strong of character, when the time is right, if it comes. If he doesn’t get better, get rid of him. You can do whatever needs doing. I was a single mom for 6 years. You can work two jobs, not get sleep whatever. It’s all in how hard you can push yourself, to know your child won’t grow up in that. I got myself together, and I know that what I did was right. I taught her that she can be strong and independent, and a good person and God=fearing, and hard-working, and so on…So do what you have to do, trust in God, and be strong in His will.

God isn’t putting you through anything, your husband is. It’s called free will. We all have it, and some of us make good choices in life and some of us don’t. It doesn’t make your husband a bad person, it just makes him human. We all have weaknesses. Some weaknesses are more harmful than others. Love and encouragement are about all you can do, and even then sometimes it’s not enough. Some situations just have to play themselves out. You two may need a seperation until he can fully get it together and stay clean. Ask God for protection and guidance, and keep encouraging your husband. You’ll have to leave the rest up to him and God. Good luck to you both.

Believe me you are not alone. I have been trying to “help” my husband for the last 5 years. He has been in 4 different rehab facilities and is still using crack/cocaine. I am currently in the middle of a divorce as the result of his relapse. I have finally accepted that I cannot help him if he doesn’t want to help himself. I hope that your husband wants a new and clean way of life. That is the only way he will beat his addiction. If you are able, please try to find an Al-Anon group in your area. They can be of great support. You will find love, hope and understanding in the group. I will keep you in my prayers. Remember that if God takes you to it he will walk you through it. God Bless you and your family.