how can i handle being around my pregnant cousin?

06/04/2011 admin 6 comments

i have been trying to concieve for a while. last month after believing that i might be pregnant i found out i wasnt. i stayed in bed crying all day since it was the first time i had been late and my hope were so high. a few days later my cousin calls to tell me she is pregnant with her second child. she almost had her 18 month old taken away b/c she tested positive for Meth while pregnant. her son is developing behind schedule. its so unfair. i cant be happy for her even though i pray for the baby i dont even want to look at her. her and her mom are coming to see my son in a program in the morning. i just want to shake her and cry because she is probably still on drugs and risking this babys health. and my aunt gushes about what a good mother my cousin is. good mothers dont do drugs while pregnant and almost have the welfare take them. how do i deal with this? im a good mother and take all necessary precautions such as taking vitamins and eating healthy just incase i get pregnant and s

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Written by alikat about 1 year ago.

Just suck it up and worry about your own life! You have a child of your own to worry about. If God wants you to have another child you will. Or you could adopt. But stop worrying about this cousin.
Written by Mrs B about 1 year ago.

Listen honey, the world is an unfair place and you’re going to have to deal with a lot of this stuff no matter where you go. I’m in the same boat you are – first pregnancy was a miscarriage, second was a full-term (40 weeks) stillbirth. How do you like DEM apples. Talk about messed up. Both pregnancies were carefully planned, I was super healthy and careful throughout – that’s just how the cookie crumbles. A lot of healthy responsible women can’t get pregnant or their babies die, while the meth-addicted welfare idiots have one healthy baby after another. I don’t know what else to tell you, except that I’m right with you, sister!
Written by Anne about 1 year ago.

Maybe it’s a sign that you were meant to adopt a baby that came from a bad situation like drugs. Think of the life you could completely change.

If you ever want to chat about infertility, email me. I’m pregnant with my 2nd after being told by numerous doctors that I was completely infertile.
Written by Silva about 1 year ago.

Basically, you have to choose your social occasions for a while.
That’s what I did. We had been trying for over a year and I found out at 11 weeks (on my birthday no less) that the baby had died around 8 weeks.
If I knew I couldn’t be around pregnant friends or people with little bubbies I would simply make an excuse & not go. If anyone gets antsy with you and complains then tell them the truth. It’s been 8 months now and even a month ago, we had a christening to go to where there was lots of babies and pregnant women, my hubby and I went and did what we had to do and then left early, saying our son needed to have a sleep. It was a bad day and it felt like a slap in the face from mother nature.
Written by Kris about 1 year ago.

OMG, I so know how you feel. I lost my son to sids in 1996 and felt the same way. I was so full of bitter spite and hate for people whom are pregnant and could care less about their baby by doing drugs!
I dealt with my feelings by staying away from the situation. I get so pissed at women who don’t care about their children. I wish I could take care of all the children.
Written by Lise Wisey about 1 year ago.

You can’t
I’m going through the same thing at work (you can see my question ‘how to cope with a pregnant workmate?).
The only way I’ve coped is by trying to ignore the fact she’s pregnant (you can’t though it’s all you think about).
Tomorrow just ignore the situation and remember if her mum was such a good mum she would notice her daughters drug problem and wouldn’t say anything
Good luck and baby dust to you

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