How can I deal with family who has such low standards when it comes to education? ?

19/10/2010 admin 7 comments

I don’t know how to ask this question any other way? I am the youngest of 5 siblings. I am the ONLY one who not onl completed High School but went on to college and now am a career professional of 17+ years. Ok. that’s me. I decided to go to college because back at that time I had a boyfriend and his family that were not only supportive of me in school ( emotionally only not financially ) but showed enthusiasm with progress, showed interest. My mom told me out of high school that I should just get a full time job and not worry about college. ( not so sound advice back in the late 80′s.) My mom was more in shock when I completed my degree and of course was the proud mom. That was after I graduated of course.. with a nursing license in tow.

My siblings children for the most part have finished high school but that is it. It saddens me that ( 80% of us are girls ) are looking for men to take of them, meaning my neices don’t have aspirations, live check to check and do not want to go to college. One works as a secretary at a local shop and the other one works ar Walmart… and a handful of others are drug addicts.. It’s a sad mix of family…. my nephew who is 31 , and a known meth addict, with a prison record nobody should be proud of indicated he is now HIV+. His mother or my sister states “it’s becuase you can’t be to careful about who you sleep with”/ Lets be honest, is shoots up.

I am really saddened at the standards that my famly has. How is it that we were all raised by the same single mother and more or less the poverty cycle is just repeating itself? College for me was a choice because I wanted better. I knew I could do better….my family often thinks that “oh she makes good money because she is a nurse”. But guess what? They could of made similiar decisiion too. Why are thier standards soo soo soo low?
WHERE HERE DOES IT EQUATE BEING SMART WITH SCHOOL? IA ASKING WHY IS IT THAT MY FAMILY HAS SUCH LOW STANDARDS WHEN THAT IN ITSELF IS A CHOICE, JUST BECAUSE I CHOSE COLLEGE I ALSO BROKE OUT OF THE CYCLE OF POVERTY.
WHERE HERE DOES IT EQUATE BEING SMART WITH SCHOOL? IA ASKING WHY IS IT THAT MY FAMILY HAS SUCH LOW STANDARDS WHEN THAT IN ITSELF IS A CHOICE, JUST BECAUSE I CHOSE COLLEGE I ALSO BROKE OUT OF THE CYCLE OF POVERTY.

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Written by hasse_john about 2 years ago.

I am a bit shocked that you equate education with schooling. I have known some intelligent uneducated people, and many educated morons.
Written by JenV about 2 years ago.

I’m certain that you can recall many challenges along the way to getting your degree. You were fortunate to have a boyfriend at the time whose family provided you with emotional support – but financial issues are also a hardship toward going to college, as well. Congratulations to you for tackling them. It takes a strong-willed person to do so. Unfortunately, it doesn’t sound like the rest of your family has the will to do so.
Written by Kelsey K about 2 years ago.

ok idk why you family standards are so low maybe its because they feel that’s all they can do so they apply that to every one else but you should keep doing what your doing and encourage other you know to do the same
Written by Lord Oxford about 2 years ago.

Do fantasicaly in school regardless, get a well paid job make a family of your own and have higher standards
Written by eightieschic about 2 years ago.

1. Maybe they are afraid to try.

2. Lack of encouragement

3. Lack of the suggestion to go

4. Some people just don’t get it. I swear to God. It drives me crazy. I can’t explain it. They just don’t get it.

I have a few cousins who are in their 40′s who went to good colleges. They REFUSE to work and live with their parents. They are always broke. What the hel!. I mean really. They just don’t get it.
Written by Crystal S about 2 years ago.

Families as a whole simply tend to fall into the cycle of poverty/no schooling/etc…. It takes a really strong person to break out of the cycle when living with a family who was brought into a mess like that! (So congrats to you, girl!)

I know I have a kind of similar family, only I have no siblings. My guardian (I don’t live with my parents) didn’t finish high school, and she doesn’t even have a job–never has, besides one fast food fit, and she’s almost forty. She lives off of the state’s money… She kicked me out, but refuses to emancipate me (I’m seventeen) because she wants to keep receiving my SSI check that I’m supposed to have for my parents dieing. She wants the money for her and her boyfriend’s drugs……
It’s really sad, how she can live so low. And because of her, I am starting to fall into the same lifestyle: I’ve decided to drop out of school, because I can’t deal with the stress of school, work, bills, and whatever else, all at once, while trying to start a new life (I’m living with my boyfriend now…). However, I’m really going to try to break this. I will get a GED and attend either a beauty school or a tech school for computer programmes of some sort…
I know it’ll be hard, but after reading your story, I remembered that it’s more than possible, so thank you! (This is another reason it’s so hard to get away from situations like this: people just end up giving up…)

I know that there is probably nothing you can do to help your family now, but either way, I wish both you and your family the best of luck. Try to help them in any way if you can.
Written by Sanyo29 about 2 years ago.

Maybe you could be a mentor to one of your nieces or nephews. Talk to them, nurture their interests. Perhaps you could help pay for some of their education. Sometimes people just need motivation and support.

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