i am struggling to know how to handle this well. background briefly – i left my husband 2 years ago he is an alcoholic and was involved with other women online and using text sex lines etc and i think meeting them. he wasnt prepared to stop. it was amicable as it could be kids see him and he spends xmas with us, has a gf now he lives with. i quite quickly became involved with a man i had loved a long time ago who was a friend in an unhappy marriage. we took it very very slow with the kids, he does not live with us, it was a long time before they even saw us hold hands. only in last 8 months maybe have they seen him stay over. my daughter age 10 is very happy and genuinely has no prob with it. we are very careful they see nothing inappropriate. it is a loving relationship but the physical side has never been in their face. but my son who is 12 has probs with it he asks if we wear pjs in bed (yes) and if we get undressed in front of each other – i tell him no. well he does like my bf and has a good relationshio with him tells him he loves him etc. but last night long after kids in bed we were making love (very quietly and under covers) when my son burst in and turned on the light and said, what are you doing and tried to pull the covers off us. we quickly covered up but it was obvious what was going on. he burst into tears and sat on teh end of the bed and it was an hour of ttears and him not talking to us before we got him settled back in bed. although i was cross at him obviously trying to catch us out i didnt tell him off cos he clearly got probs wit this. after half an hour he came back in and shouted ‘what are you doing now? i can hear you, im not stupid i know whats going on’. well nothing was going on luckily. but honestly, how do i handle this? he is now saying that he will never be happy while i am with my bf, that he would prefer it just the three of us, that it is not like his dad being here (well i know that and really, given how these things can go we are all, y ex included, trying to make it the best posible sort of break up. ) but i know these things are awful for kids, and y son and i have always been close but i can see that being damaged now but also i can see that his responses are crossing a line. he is being very controlling of what i can and cant do and follows me everywhere. can this be resolved? has anyone been through this that can give me advice? do i give up my bf? ( i do really really deeply ove him but i not want to damage my son any more) any advice at all please help cos i have tried to be considerate of my son, he is almost all we ever talk about or worry about – but it getting me nowhere and i am feeling resentful now which i know is awful. thanks for reading.