Father and son relationship falling down the drain?

18/05/2011 admin 7 comments

My dad i used to get along and so did my mom and sister a long time ago but as the years wen’t on, he became a raging alcoholic freak and my mom has been trying to raise money recently and is gone to Missouri to help her sick mom and my sister is off to college. Before she wen’t off, my dad just started to dislike everyone, he drank like 20 cans everyday and still does, he verbally abused my sister and my mom and they hate each other now. Recently my dad has been calling me trash and i am a freak for crying just because i miss my mom a lot, then he calls me the worst things like “you f*cking b*astard”. It hurts soo much that i can’t stand it and i have a mental breakdown where i just let it all out on the phone with my mom or sister. He says that i was mistake for becoming this ungrateful child, but in reality, he made me “this” way for always leaving me home alone getting drunk and saying rude things to me. I’m only 14 what should i do? I’m sick of looking at him.
We ignore each other every day now too.

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Written by Hubris252 about 1 year ago.

You should talk to the rest of your family about doing an intervention for your alcoholic father.
Written by Wesley M about 1 year ago.

Tell a relative or a friend what is going on.
Written by M8729 about 1 year ago.

oh crap. Don’t you have any other relative that can help?
Written by dasupr about 1 year ago.

talk to a teacher, counselor at school, adult you trust. what your father is doing is abuse. You need out of that house, either with your mom or another place.
Written by ... about 1 year ago.

In the torrents of life, we might end up feeling as though we can’t escape all the pain and suffering. But do not lose hope. If you have older siblings, cousins, aunts, or uncles who can help you out by taking you to live in their home, I’d go for it. When I was exactly 14, I just could not tolerate the non-conducive atmosphere at home to studying and I talked to my aunt and uncle about it. Although they had raised children of their own, they took me into their home for 1 year until I could get some peace of mind. I can’t tell you what to do because you’re the one who knows the resources you have around you. There are school teachers and counselors, but remember–never give in to the defeatest mentality that there’s nothing you can do about it! It looks like you must be your own best advocate and if you can’t function properly in such a home, then find a way.

One thing I do realize is there are so many families out there with dysfunction. When I used to think it was just mine alone in a world of care and love, that uninformed state just got me down. We are human and sometimes we all can make a mess, but to get the best of life we have to know how to balance all the stress in life and emerge into a private corner of the mind in peace. Whatever it takes to survive a short time, as determined by you and others who care about you, before you can exert independence. No one should be expected to help heal an alcoholic but a professional psychiatrist. He does need help and his violence is what makes me conclude: it is better for you to take care of yourself and try to keep your grades up. I’m really sorry to hear that…
Written by Robert H about 1 year ago.

it sounds like your dad has troubles that he just cant manage. and the more he cant the harder it is for him then the harder it gets to all of you. the drinking is just another element to the problem . in fact it makes it worse. you cry becouse you love him. thats good. its easier to run away from someone then to be there when they need you most. but at 14 you dont have the ability to do the things he needs. im sure he loves you. im sure your financially a difficult thing to manage in his state. the truth is he needs to seek help. and it is going to be rough on your mom . and the rest of you guys. but if he gets help and takes a plan into action , things could get better. but the hole is so deep now who knows if all of you have the strength to take on this burden. have you tried his dad. your grandpa. maybe he knows or your grandma knows how to help. always try to incorporate help inside the family first. if that fails then try outside. his attitude is not your fault, your reaction is. dont say you hate him now. its the same oas him saying it. its wrong. but i do feel sorry for your family troubles. its hard. sometimes life is very hard. fight thru it . your strenght will show now. good luck. also call aa and see if intervention is possible. hopefully its a symptom and not a desease, also study hard . school has the foundation to most of your life. gain knowledge. and try to stay on your targets. good luck kiddo.
Written by 80sMusicFan about 1 year ago.

It sucks! If he left you alone, it would have been something. You got toinform ur grandparents or close relatives or dad’d friend ur close to , let them know that its bothering you too much.

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