Comments on: easy question for the ladies about cheating and divorce.?

By: V

Sat, 31 Jul 2010 14:52:07 +0000

She might have someone on the side. Its not your buisness though. It looks like your actions let her move on just faster; With or without someone else.

By: regina

regina — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 14:24:53 +0000

i think she may have fallen out of love with you after all you did make her suffer a lot t but if you put yourself to it you may get her back just don’t be so obviouss that you want her back ….. stop kissing ass and get your act together for a couple of days help her with your son but don’t be ovbious that you want her then after maybe a week ask her if she’d like to have a coffee or something to drink to talk then don’t tell her you want her back ask her what is going to happen with the divorce then ask her if thats what she really wants let her know you don’t wanna divorce and good luck

By: Nicole

Nicole — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 14:21:34 +0000

You hurt her and she does not trust you. She has a son that she has to think of before anyone else and needs to protect him. She probably does not want her son around this kind of situation or does not want to take the chance of trying again for the possibility of it happening again, no to mention protecting her feelings too from getting hurt again. You need to focus on yourself right now. It may even be possible that she does not see a significant enough change in you, you have to understand she maybe very afraid to try this marriage again. Give her all the space she needs and respect her wishes, if you do it’s possible she will come around. Good Luck

By: tkdnsacountry

tkdnsacountry — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 14:21:11 +0000

Stop posting the same S H I T on here every couple of days. Go back and read some of the answers that have been posted.

By: anand

anand — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 13:39:36 +0000

It was a very mild and late reaction after what you have done to her.Why you feel suspicious for other man ? Have you left any other option for her.

By: aracely c

aracely c — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 12:40:28 +0000

I think you have to let it go as much as it migh hurt…Maybe she doesn’t love you anymore and is just so hurt..I went through a similar situation like that in whick my husband was a drunk and treated me like sh*t..After five years I left him and diorced him..He tried to get me to go back to him and I didn’t because no matter what, nothing would make me love him the same again or forget what he’d done to me..I really think this is how your wife must be feeling now..It’s not easy to forgive someone who hurts you like that..I don’t think it’s got anything to do with another man, it’s just she’s tired of the situation..However if you really care and are going to change, respect her feelings and all you can do is let her know what you want..If you end up in a divorce, please don’t forget you have a child..You need to be in that child’s life and show him/her that you can indeed be a good father..I wish you the best of luck!!!

By: just ashley

just ashley — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 11:49:31 +0000

hmm maybe your son knows? Ask him lol

I am sorry, i don’t honestly know. Maybe she does. But I understand you know you messed up. We don’t forgive things like this easy. You have to prove you still love her.? If you do. Try to do something she likes, you do remember right? Take her and your son out to dinner. A nice place not just fast food, try to spend as much time with them as possible. Help her with money, paying the bills with checks made out to the place she owes them. But don’t let her use you unless your gonna be togerher again..

Good luck, oh and if she does have someone else. You just have to keep your calm, hope they don’t work out. But don’t do anything to make it so they wont.

But good luck. I will pray for you

By: Tigerspaw357

Tigerspaw357 — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 11:33:14 +0000

CONGRATULATIONS! on cleaning up your act and taking responsibility for your actions. Here is the problem, you have taken the steps to change, forgive and confront yourself. Now you want to know why other people who were affected by your behavior are not on the same page you are on? You can’t do that! I think your ex was depressed about her situation, just like you said money and her job. A CD was a great idea, but it was not something she could appreciate when worrying about money. You should have offered to help her pay a bill. Or at least say you wish you could do more. You should go on and self-improve as you are doing and expect nothing from her. If she sees that you have really changed she might take interest again. It will take time to build the trust you destroyed, but you sound like a much BETTER person. GOOD LUCK

By: Little Viper

Little Viper — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 11:03:27 +0000

She’s really mad at you right now. Just give it a little time and when she’s not fighting mad, have a talk with her. I don’t know your wifey so I couldn’t say what she has on the side, but it’s possible. Apologize and tell her what you been doing to change.

By: Mean Carleen

Mean Carleen — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 10:05:29 +0000

Unless she has shown you something that looks like she may want to get back with you, you need to prepare for life without her in the wifey position.

Your turn around probably came too late for her to be interested in continuing the marriage BUT there is no need to speculate when you can ask her how and what she feels regarding you guys continuing the marriage.