easy question for the ladies about cheating and divorce.?

31/07/2010 admin 17 comments

Ok i have been separated from my wife for a year have really only give her the space she wanted the last 5 months.I was a mean drunk to her and my son which i am ashamed off.But i have gotten into AA and i am in counseling about my anger and suicide attempts.I Truly love this woman and child with all my heart wished i could have done it before this happened but i did not.I know she made me a better man the day i meet her and even a better man the day she left me.Do not get me wrong i want her and my son back real bad just not sure how i can make this happen.If anyone has an advise please tell a stupid man what to do.And yes i know i am a stupid man for treating a amazing woman like shit.I have since tried to give her the space she wanted and even done stuff for her that i did not need to do.For example we hung-out Saturday with my son she said she was depressed about money and her job.So Sunday i went out and and bought her the Alisha Keys album with Superwoman on it .I really expected nothing but a heartfelt thank you.What i got was thanks as she through the CD on the passenger seat in almost disgust.Ok could this be the sign if a woman who hates me and loves another man.Or is this the reaction of a woman who is trying to show as little feelings as possible.
Oh yea she brings up the divorce almost everytime we get together.Read in a book that woman want closeier on stuff like this faster than men.Or is this a woman who already has someone on the side unsure this is why i am asking.

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Written by dmstanley02 about 2 years ago.

It could be anything. The only way you will know is to talk to her.
Written by N3rd3tte about 2 years ago.

it seems like a reaction of an unsure ladie. You hurt her, and you really need to remember that. Put yourself in her shoes, would you come back to you?

mabey even give it a few more months, make sure you let her know how your meetings are going and chat with her about them, make her realize you are really making an effort to get her and your son back.

Best of luck big guy. I may not know you but im proud as hell to hear that you are going to meetings.
Written by fchyenne about 2 years ago.

i think her reaction to the cd might be a too little too late kind of thing..it probably mad her angry because that kind of geasture was something she wanted a long time ago and never got until now…sorry about the bad news….hope things get better for you and keep up on the AA…it will help
Written by clueless about 2 years ago.

you hurt her she does not want to be in that situation and the only GARENTEE she has that it will not happen again is to divorce
Written by pikachu about 2 years ago.

i wouldn’t blame her for trying to divorce you and you shouldn’t either. she deserves better. now what you have to do is prove that you are better and you are worthy of her. it is good that you are getting back on your feet, which is a start because she can see that you are working on it. but it will take time. you hurt her and she has to heal. the only thing is to wait until she is ready. and keep working on getting better. eventually she will come around when she sees that she can trust you again.
Written by Ms. Shoua about 2 years ago.

you’ve heard of enough is enough and a little to late.. well this is the situation here…
why do men assume that us women must have another fella on the side when it really is just that we’ve had enough…stop assuming that she has someone (whether she does or doesn’t) cause you already know from the start that it was your fault…
i think it’s time to face reality and move on cause she has… all you can do now is be a better person to yourself and for your son…
Written by The pink panther about 2 years ago.

When a person is depressed about a job and money, a CD by Elisha Keys isn’t the answer. Have you been helping her financially, since she has the son? You should have asked her “Is there anything I can do to help?” She is trying to make it on her own, and if you want to get back into her life and the life of your son, you had better do more than just buy her a CD!
Written by Mean Carleen about 2 years ago.

Unless she has shown you something that looks like she may want to get back with you, you need to prepare for life without her in the wifey position.

Your turn around probably came too late for her to be interested in continuing the marriage BUT there is no need to speculate when you can ask her how and what she feels regarding you guys continuing the marriage.
Written by Little Viper about 2 years ago.

She’s really mad at you right now. Just give it a little time and when she’s not fighting mad, have a talk with her. I don’t know your wifey so I couldn’t say what she has on the side, but it’s possible. Apologize and tell her what you been doing to change.
Written by Tigerspaw357 about 2 years ago.

CONGRATULATIONS! on cleaning up your act and taking responsibility for your actions. Here is the problem, you have taken the steps to change, forgive and confront yourself. Now you want to know why other people who were affected by your behavior are not on the same page you are on? You can’t do that! I think your ex was depressed about her situation, just like you said money and her job. A CD was a great idea, but it was not something she could appreciate when worrying about money. You should have offered to help her pay a bill. Or at least say you wish you could do more. You should go on and self-improve as you are doing and expect nothing from her. If she sees that you have really changed she might take interest again. It will take time to build the trust you destroyed, but you sound like a much BETTER person. GOOD LUCK
Written by just ashley about 2 years ago.

hmm maybe your son knows? Ask him lol

I am sorry, i don’t honestly know. Maybe she does. But I understand you know you messed up. We don’t forgive things like this easy. You have to prove you still love her.? If you do. Try to do something she likes, you do remember right? Take her and your son out to dinner. A nice place not just fast food, try to spend as much time with them as possible. Help her with money, paying the bills with checks made out to the place she owes them. But don’t let her use you unless your gonna be togerher again..

Good luck, oh and if she does have someone else. You just have to keep your calm, hope they don’t work out. But don’t do anything to make it so they wont.

But good luck. I will pray for you
Written by aracely c about 2 years ago.

I think you have to let it go as much as it migh hurt…Maybe she doesn’t love you anymore and is just so hurt..I went through a similar situation like that in whick my husband was a drunk and treated me like sh*t..After five years I left him and diorced him..He tried to get me to go back to him and I didn’t because no matter what, nothing would make me love him the same again or forget what he’d done to me..I really think this is how your wife must be feeling now..It’s not easy to forgive someone who hurts you like that..I don’t think it’s got anything to do with another man, it’s just she’s tired of the situation..However if you really care and are going to change, respect her feelings and all you can do is let her know what you want..If you end up in a divorce, please don’t forget you have a child..You need to be in that child’s life and show him/her that you can indeed be a good father..I wish you the best of luck!!!
Written by anand about 2 years ago.

It was a very mild and late reaction after what you have done to her.Why you feel suspicious for other man ? Have you left any other option for her.
Written by tkdnsacountry about 2 years ago.

Stop posting the same S H I T on here every couple of days. Go back and read some of the answers that have been posted.
Written by Nicole about 2 years ago.

You hurt her and she does not trust you. She has a son that she has to think of before anyone else and needs to protect him. She probably does not want her son around this kind of situation or does not want to take the chance of trying again for the possibility of it happening again, no to mention protecting her feelings too from getting hurt again. You need to focus on yourself right now. It may even be possible that she does not see a significant enough change in you, you have to understand she maybe very afraid to try this marriage again. Give her all the space she needs and respect her wishes, if you do it’s possible she will come around. Good Luck
Written by regina about 2 years ago.

i think she may have fallen out of love with you after all you did make her suffer a lot t but if you put yourself to it you may get her back just don’t be so obviouss that you want her back ….. stop kissing ass and get your act together for a couple of days help her with your son but don’t be ovbious that you want her then after maybe a week ask her if she’d like to have a coffee or something to drink to talk then don’t tell her you want her back ask her what is going to happen with the divorce then ask her if thats what she really wants let her know you don’t wanna divorce and good luck
Written by V about 2 years ago.

She might have someone on the side. Its not your buisness though. It looks like your actions let her move on just faster; With or without someone else.

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