My nephew is 21 and won’t look for a job. When his mother tells him to, he makes her life hell. His father left to live with someone else and is no help. In fact he is the reason why he is worthless. His father’s father was a worthless alcoholic who only worked occasionally. And ended being taken care of by the mother until he died. In fact all of the uncles from that side of the family are or were worthless. The father was abusive and always relied on his mother or my parents to help him and my sister out of being in trouble. He smokes pot all the time so you know that the kids do to. My sister is so neurotic from being in an abusive relationship for 26 years that she can’t or won’t do anything about this now abusive self proclaimed drug addict. She can’t throw him out because she is afraid that he will do something bad to himself. Also he won’t go anyway. Plus he starts trashing everything in the house and then leaves before the cops show up. And even when they do show up, there is nothing that they will do. Plus I don’t think that my sister will really follow therough with anything either.I told my mother that I need to sit that little bastard down and talk to him man to man. But she says don’t rock the boat. All I want to tell him is that it is time to be a man and get a job and start contributing. But the women (my mom and my sister) say all that will do is make things worse. I tell them that I will not be his victim like they are. But sinse I take care of my mother now, one way or the other, I am now. I say that it is time for a man to deal with this and set things straight no matter what anyone thinks. Especially since its my life and my mother’s life that is also being effected here. Sooner or later they will probably end up moving in with me and I won’t have that crap in my house. He says that he is addicted to pot so he can’t work. And he won’t get help. I say that its just an excuse and its time to tell him how it is. But if I do then all hell will break loose. I say let it break. Let him go and experiance the real America. Has anyone else had to put up with this garbage? There was a time when get the hell out! used to work. Now the women say don’t rock the boat and now I’m the bad guy. Sooner or later there comes a time when a man has to step in and clean house. What say you????