Dated a dude for about 7 years. we were so close that I could be on the other side of town and think of him and he would call me that very same moment. We ended up seperating bc my Mom was determined to make his life a living hell. She called the police on him and told them he was a drug dealer, which he wasn’t. She went to our church and told ppl that he was beating me….all kinds of stuff. He still through all that wanted to be with me but I was so miserable watching him go through those trails that I just decided to call it off.
Fast forward…I moved out of my Mom’s house and was looking for him for a few years. I got engaged and had a baby and that didn’t work out. Remained single for a while and I never stopped loving or looking for this dude and wanted to see if something could pop off cause my living circumstances were different.
After about 5 years of not being able to find him, I wrote his name on the walls of my heart and kept it going. I met a dude who is great to me and and my kid. We have been together for about 3 years. I told him about my feelings for the other dude when we 1st hooked up and he suggested that I would leave the past in the past.
Well, I recently got a FB page and the first person to hit me up was him. I have talked to him and his wife. she told me that he explained to her when they got married that if I ever came around and I was single and interested in him that he would leave her. her next question was, are u interested in my husband?
I didn’t know what to say. She told me that she wanted to know bc she needed to know if I was a threat or not.
Personally, I thought she was crazy 4 committing to marriage with him. She told me that he wouldn’t even have kids with her until he knew where I was and what was up.
I asked him if we could meet in person and when we did it was just like old times. He told me he didn’t feel bad about leaving his wife for me bc he gave her a disclaimer in the begining but he did care about her and care couldn’t compare to me.
I told him I had to think about it bc I am not single. He responded with, where is my future son at.
I didn’t get to talk to my current bf about it yet and last night he asked me to marry him. I told him yes, of course cause I love him.
Then this morning, over breakfast he brings up my ex and tells me to make sure I have my ex out of my system cause cheating or divorcing is not an option. Til death do we part. I didn’t even respond I just changed the subject.

Any help would be great. I wont lie I do want to see whats up with old boy but I am not comfortable carrying the blood of causing them to divorce on my hands. Plus, my current dude is awesome, but we have been through so much that I don’t get fuzzy feelings with him like I use to. It’s more routine than the connection that we had originally. Plus he is the only Dad my kid has ever known.
Help!