How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

ruining all our lives..he’s addited to oxycontin and other drugs. He lies constantly, bilks relatives from money, stole Christmas presents Christmas eve, was discovered sleeping in my mother’s attic where he had gotten through two sticks and a chain on the patio door, broken in apartments, refuses rehab, broken his mother’s heart, loses jobs, apartments, cars, a wife, and much more. He steals repeatedly from relatives and breaks in our sheds and my mom’s house often. Made many death threats..people are scared to turn him in as he may retaliate or he may just be using controlling behavior. he gets away with murder.

Do they know they are ruining their lives and many others? Do they care? Is only thre drug important? What makes them quit? Need more insight..
how can you make them want rehab…I feel prison might get him off drugs..his mom pays and gets him in programs and he doesn’t show up, lies and says he went and then they find out he didn’t etc.

That’s the problem…we all decided not to give him money etc but his grandma (and sometimes) brother get the most begging and sometimes break down and help him…they are hounded and the “strong ones” generally are not approaced..his mom also breaks down sometimes and helps him behind her husband’s back who has thrreatened divorce if she helps him but she feels sorry for him when he is freezing and homeless…he also threathens his grandma a lot and she has helped him most (except maybe his mom)…he has ruined her life and she is dying and he is so stressing her out and hastening her death that is no more than 6 months away according to the doctor. We do need to be united but then he breaks in if we don’t help..somehow he cons his way in..a master manipulator and liar and stupid grandma
keeps buying his bull crp stories.
Abhishek Joshi –you offered some real insight into things. It’s true..I think this is a kid (well he’s 28 now but a kid to me still) who is full of anger. His dad was a jerk–never there…abandoned him..bought him drugs they took together when a teen, broke promises he’s visit all the time. This was a kid noone liked banging doors and cussing everyone out when only 2 years old..how we disliked him and talked about how rotten he was as he was..stole five sets of keys from me and apparently threw them in the gully and slashed my tires as a kid cause I wouldn’t let my son (who he liked) stay all night a few times so I’d bre forced to stay..breaking in houses as a teen and just a troublemaker. Spoiled like crazy by a mom who felt sorry for him that noone liked him with no parental insight and very permissive, buying him things like chinese stars, bb guns, minicars, bow and arrows (which he proudly and loudly announced much to my emabarrassment at the museam I took him to when
looking at stuffed birds that he loved shooting them between the eyes ith slingshots and such at about 5 years old..bought him things like garbage pail kids sticker and all these things at the inappropriate ages of 2-7 and saying to me don’t buy hiom toys for Christmas he doesn’t like them…sorry he got toys from me..what am I gonna buy him…weapons? She bought this bratty. ungrateful kid who cussed out teachers and threw chairs at them $300 shoes and jackets. he was very dependent on his mom and adept at xontrolling her….until she remarried at his age 18 where they essentially threw him aside for their own lives and the two males hated each other…Steve (the kid) blaming Mick (the new husband) for taking away his mom who he had frustrated but wrapped around his finger..Mick was also controlling with Sue (the mom) fake names in the middle torn between husband and son..the husband mostly won and it was then I felt sorry for the kid throw away in my opinion the son who had been
all becoming nothing although she still helps him sometimes behind husband’s back)…I think as you said the kid is full of anger..the family is disfunctional and people have been judging him from birth he feels unloved and is gonna make everyone pay even if it destroys him in the process. He was obsessed with guns and is an angry kid..angry at the world and his family and life..he sees himself homeless, suffering, losing jobs and possessions and wife and family and homes and blames everyone and the drug is his relief from the anger and pain and makes him happy and forget. It is a sad situation but whast you said helped me have more compassion for him.

Should i say something, I don’t wanna hurt his chances of being popular. I want him to be able to go to all the underage drinking parties.

has destroyed everyone’s life stealing multiple items and money from my now dying mom, disabled brother, other brother, and apparently has broken into multiple houses to support his habit and it again homeless and jobless and was hanging around my mom’s house..broke into her house before Christmas last year and was fopund hiding and living in the attic and stole multiple expensive Christmas presents.

He has stolen from me a credit card and changed $1000 before discover, has my social security number or did as he stole my driver’s licence and in my lifetime 5 complete set of keys. He somehow gets in the houses and cars even if locks are changed. I have a shed at my mom’s and he broke dozens of locks anfd it appears he has stolen stuff but I am afraid to look due to him living in it and using the bathoom everywhere in his drugged up state..broke windows and dead squirrels may be in there and I am afraid of the virus they may carry so don’t even know what he took from there..(cont)
it was the gills and a mess and now appears
half full but he claims he threw everything in the back which may be..I can’t see as it is all stacked to the roof due to his moving everything around. Naturally I do not want him in there. He used to be obsessed with guns and made multiple threats to kill everyone in the family. Everyone is terrified of him (he is addicted to oxycontin & possible other drugs. ..his mother has disowned him due to threats by her husband (who isn’t his dad) to divorce her if she helps him in any way (she is wealthy) as the nephew has lid so many times, cheated her of money, she spent thousands trying to get him help..he lies and doesn’t go to treatment..he did just go and claimsd he is off and (as usual) notone will help him..gee I wonder why after he stole so much and lied so much and threatened to kill everyone violently). I doubt if he is off drugs like he claims as he lies all the time.

My mom is dying and has about a month to live of her
prognosis and can’t take his continual begging and stressing and all. Anyway, I went to fireworks with my brother and a picnic and apparently this nephew was in my car..I knew right away as brights were on, radio way up, back light on..my other brother said druggie was in the car as the alarm lights were flashing and a big stack of my papers from the car was on the bench where this kid (in his late 20′s) was sitting and going through..he claimed h was not in the car..I found a purse in the car missing and it was found in my mom’s back yard where this guy slept on the porch..so I know he took it (luckily I took my wallet and purse with me and the purse was empty)..I don’t see these papers my nephew had that my brother said he put in the car just for a couple..those have my address on it..he did not know where I lived but now does. He is skilled at stealing people’s identities as this is what he and an accomplish did when they broke in the housing..the jerk..I hate him. I am terrified
now feeling no safety..I just left my mom as I was preparing some food for tomorrow and it hit me on the way home, he has my address.

I am in my late 50′s and never had a computer until this year. I am disabled and have no way to replace the computer, and printer, vcrs, big stereo birthyday present and two TVs..it took my whole life to get this stuff. I now only have $100 for food and gas and clothers and misc after the bills so obviosly can’t replace stuff hre steals if he comes here and braks in..he knows my cr so can see if I am here or not..what can I do to protect my belongings? He got into my mom’s at christams with two sticks and a lock in the sliding door.

My chain lock was breoken by my apartment so it does not appear too study. I also have a slide lock and live on the first floor so he could break a window..* am worried he may have taken some preapproved credit card forms and might break in to get those activated and ruin my credit. I hate where I live and am locked in
in here for life almost in I don’t get out and I must have good credit to be approved for the subsidizedFFousing I have breen on the list for 16 months for and may get in in the next 2 years..if he ruins my credit then what..I cabn’t stand it here as so small. Please advise. I do not know if I have enough proof to get a restraining order which I was unable to get on shed as it is my mom’s property and she won’t file and now is too sick. I have no money for rehab..he lies and does not go..she is too ill to go get a restraining order and maybe afraid..brother who is guardian said not going cause he wasn’t the victim this time..he almost seems to enjoy freaking me out more..how can I protect my property

I have a 23 year old son still living at home, doesn”t work, and if he does, it is only for a month. He has a cocaine problem, and thinks that he can just quit on his own, which he has tried, but he always falls back to it. I have kicked him out, of the house, but he stills bothers me on the phone with his problem. It is hard for me to deal with all this. I have tried to help him, but he just doesn’t want to help himself. By the way, he has been to rehab once, but only lasted 2 months clean.

I don/t see him often, but the last few times his nose is runny, eyes are watery, and spends quite a bit of time outside or in the bathroom.

threatens her life, breaks in her house….she is afraid of threats and that if he loses his trucker’s license, he will always hang around..at least this ways they get a two or three month break from this stress till he loses his job. He keeps hanging around. They (my brother) called police where they found out he was in attic and broke in house without their knowledge and stole Christmas presents and other items. How can we get her to quit enabling him as she falls for his lies and sob stories..He on crushed and snorted oxycontin and maybe other drugs. he ignored attempts at rehab..after calling police and saying pressing charges..she gave him a blanket Chrsitmas eve and let him sleep on back patio.
well, we tried..we had a meeting once and all agreed not to give him money, items or food and help him reach bottom quicker and seek help as when his mom pays for rehab and he agrees to go, he doesn’t or he lies and says he went but he renigs on it. I think the death threats by gun and instability and his impulsiveness and blaming everyone else fo his problems stiffle stciking with calling police..plus he is hard to catch..the fear he is controlling us with is a factor and permissivemess and difficulty with saying no to his pleas and not feeling sorry for him mess things up..the ones firm in not helping him or not afraid of him, he leaves alone. what can we do?
that should be grandson not nephew
good suggestion, free to chat, but I don’t think they will call police due to how they are…siometimes but not consistency and that can mnullify the order.
thank you, little peewee for your compassionate answer and offers to help…it is making it hard on my mom..but it is up to the males in the family who are braver and younger to intervene. I am a 57 year old disabled woman. I do give suggestions but they are often ignored. It is very frustrating. He makes me so angry adding to my mom’s intense suffering as she is in real pain.

I found a white powder in my son’s room, and I’m curious as to what symptoms I should be looking for if and when my son is snorting/injecting the devil’s dandruff.

My sister is a single mother and her 15 year old son is addicted to drugs he doesn’t want to go to school and everytime he goes to school is to get in trouble (he is a trouble kid). I need help on where can she take him to help him out. Is there any kind of program u can reccomend me?